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Self-forgiveness and Becoming Our Best Self – Part 1/2


No matter what “bad things” we have thought, believed, supported, done, or not done, time we have wasted, money we have squandered, or any addictions we have succumbed to, we can turn our life around and rise above what has held us in negative attitudes or patterns hurting our self or others. Forgiving ourselves is vital to becoming our Best Self To do so we must embrace the concept of unconditional love for ourselves. The Universe (God, Spirit, Source, or whatever we call the creative universal power) offers us only unconditional love, and within that premise is complete forgiveness. It is OUR egoic thinking that we inherited from Humanity's way of approaching life that causes us to blame and be unforgiving - of ourselves and others. The understanding is that we only ever hurt our self, others, or act badly because we are disconnected from the love within our True Self, and are thereby misaligned from universal understanding. This blog article is based on concepts in my new book   (available in Print and E-book) About Book found here  (Links to my blog pages and free monthly newsletter below) Even though at our core we are all pure love, most of us have been disconnected from that love - and unable to feel it or express it because we succumbed fear scenarios and defensive attitudes because of hurts put upon us, or situations we misunderstood or misinterpreted in our past. These protective devices caused us to contract, close our hearts, and thus we become distanced from our True Self and the unconditional love within it. Not aligned with love, we are not attuned to the nuances of compassion, understanding, and forgiveness it holds - for our self and towards others. Our hurts cause us to hurt others, or act in unloving, judgmental, and bullying ways. Detached from these loving qualities we do not always act in our own best interests. This disconnect from the love within us causes us to see others through a clouded lens, which induces us to act negatively towards them. We are all somewhat misaligned from our True Self and this shows up in the various ways we navigate life. This coupled with our various personalities, habits, preferences, upbringing, sexual identities, and our racial and cultural backgrounds make us all look, speak, and behave differently. When we have a strong connection to our True Self and the love within it we do not see or focus on the differences – we see from a loving place and beyond the differences to the core of the other person – to the love within them. When we have a weak connection to our True Self and thereby to the love within us, we see others through the clouded lens of the unconscious influences that run our lives and lie between us and our True Self. These causes us to judge, blame, shame, belittle, criticize, ignore, or act in other non-passionate ways towards others. Most of us have somewhat of a [...]

Self-forgiveness and Becoming Our Best Self – Part 1/22020-06-30T19:50:55+00:00

From Mindlessness to Mindfulness – Part 2 of 2


While the self-examination required to become mindful may sound tedious, it isn’t. We start by examining our general focus, thoughts, and motives, and consider how our choices impact ourselves and those around us. We still get to live normal life, but we just do a bit of self-reflection. Once we make the decision to become more conscious, we will become aware of when we are being mindless. Spirit will gently guide us to see what we need to see. (See here for Part 1) And If we exist within a generally positive Life Matrix, we don’t have to continuously examine all our thoughts and attitudes through a microscopic lens. (See below for definition of  Life Matrix, and link to a post discussing it). Even when we are attempting to shift our Life Matrix to becoming more aware and away from the negative and a conscious effort is required, we don’t have to examine every thought or attitude we hold. Excerpted from my New Book See  here  for About Book and below for info on the next 2 books in this series due out shortly. (Also below is information on my 1st book, “Your Journey to Peace…”, ) By acknowledging what is brought to our attention, and choosing to look at whatever it is in a calmer, more loving, or inclusive way, our Life Matrix will begin to shift. This starts the ball rolling and we will then have many ah-ha moments where we become aware we could choose a better attitude or behavior—sometimes only after the fact, and that is OK. Becoming mindful is a process. We will forget. It may even sometimes seem like we are taking two steps forward and one step back. This is because we are now becoming aware of what we didn’t realize before. At this point, we are well on our way to conscious living because becoming aware is the big first step. But we must always remember: Self-examination’s purpose is not to make us feel bad or to shame us.  It is to make us become more aware of our emotions and where our mind wants to take us, so that we can make better, more conscious choices.   Calming or centering practices like prayer, meditation, yoga, Tai Chi or simply spending time in nature attunes our beings to our True Self, whose comforting nature and gentle guidance will help us to become more mindful. So does journaling. When we are mindful: We see our past and present experiences through a clear lens, so there is no need to blame or project our frustrations or miseries onto others. We are empowered and do not expect others to fix our problems. Nor do we wait for any higher being to take them away as we are doing our part. Mindfulness is a cornerstone in Eastern thought systems, and it can be utilized in many different ways. Dr. Ellen Langer explains in her book, Mindfulness, that the practice of true mindfulness within Eastern teachings is quite complex, focusing mainly on meditation to bring about [...]

From Mindlessness to Mindfulness – Part 2 of 22019-05-04T18:03:43+00:00

Your Journey to Peace, Bridging the Gap …


Your Journey To Peace, Bridging the Gap Between Religion, Spirituality, Psychology, and Science. (Links to Purchase + to Reviews are Below) Your Journey to Peace  ... Guides us to become Our Best Self by,  Showing us how to find peace within ourselves - even in challenging times, Guiding us to have a positive mind frame so that we are inviting positive experiences and harmony with others into our life - instead of a mind frame that focuses on the negative and drama and keeps us in frustration and in conflict with others. Shows that we can greatly improve our relationships with minor attitudinal changes, Find harmony with all those around us, Make peace with our situations,    and Make peace with the world around us. I do this through the lens of the various Religions, Spiritualities, ancient and modern Psychology, while at the same time bringing in modern day science to link it all together Purchase: Amazon - Canada   Amazon - USA  Barnes and Noble Indigo/Chapters (Canada) Here are a few snippets from a few reviews: See Below to read full reviews "Rosemary McCarthy writes with great clarity and compassion. Your Journey to Peace… is a comprehensive guidebook for a new generation—an essential addition to any spiritual library. ~ Carol Lynn Fitzpatrick. "Journey... is such a great pleasure to read.  You explain everything with clarity, warmth and personality – so important for readers who are just awakening.  ~ Suzanne Ward. Channel for Matthew Ward. 'Know thyself' is one of the most important axioms handed down to us from the ancient philosophers. Your Journey to Peace… is a detailed road-map to knowing ourselves. [It) synthesizes ancient and modern thought-systems to create a practical guide for navigating life" ~ Michael Mirdad. "In her excellent book, Your Journey to Peace ... Rosemary gives us a comprehensive summary of the complete spiritual journey, and how its process relates to, and is ultimately connected to, the major human expressions of the truth. I highly recommend this work to all who are on a spiritual path." ~ Gary Renard. ----------------------------------- (About my other published book, Why We Are the Way We Are. My 2024 Upcoming books: "Relationship Intelligence ... - Summer 2024.    "Overcome Your Unconscious Influences" - Fall 2024 (Sign Up – for my Free Newsletter for my Journey to Peace stream - for general spiritual messages For my Relationship Intelligence Newsletter stream: email me at: rosemary@spiritedfawnpublications.com Journey ... Explains the value of our relationships to others in becoming our Best Self by, Helping us to understand the importance of our connection to others,   and Shows how our personal, collective, and cosmic journeys to peace are connected. Journey … Is like a puzzle of a million little pieces that fit together, as it Links all the whys and wherefores of our individual, collective, and cosmic existences through the different areas of study in its sub-title. Purchase: Amazon - Canada   Amazon - USA    Barnes and Noble Indigo/Chapters(Canada) In “Your Journey to Peace …  ” I explain how finding our Best [...]

Your Journey to Peace, Bridging the Gap …2024-05-30T12:09:56+00:00


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