Our emotions are ever changing and they shift with the ebbs and flows of how we are perceiving life – at any moment in time.

How we feel now … and

  • how we interpret what happens to us,
  • how we allow others’ behaviors to affect us,
  • how much we focus on the past,
  • how anxious we are about the future;
  • how involved we are in others’ lives and/or dramas, and how concerned we are with our physical, financial, professional, and spiritual well-being


Our emotions show us a picture of how much we trust life. They show us whether we believe that life is good and benevolent – or not, and how connected we are to our True Self.

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We all have influences that affect us: how we feel, how we think, how we react, and how we behave – all without our conscious consent. I call these our Unconscious Influences, and they can be positive or negative.

Positive Unconscious Influences

If our emotions are stable and we are happy, content, calm, and peaceful most of the time, then we have faith in life and a good connection to our True Self. We

likely deal with upsets or disappointment at face value, without bringing a disproportionate amount of emotion from the past or exaggerated fears about the future into current situation.

And even if we do get upset or feel bad for any reason, it usually only lasts for a short time. Our Unconscious Influences are mostly positive, and we mostly deal with life in positive, life-affirming, and empowering ways.

Negative Unconscious Influences

When our emotions are unstable and/or we are unhappy, depressed, worried, or anxious, there are past wounds inside us that need healing.

When we are often stressed, critical of others, impatient with those around us, or become judgmental around people who are different than we are or who hold differing beliefs, we are reacting to Unconscious Influences.

When we get angry and easily fly off the handle when we don’t get our way or something unexpected happens, we are reacting from past emotions that were never processed, but that need at outlet. Negative Unconscious Influences are at play that need to be addressed.

Emotions need to be acknowledged and addressed. If they are not, they will come out in aggressive or overly-passive ways that affect our relationships, or, in disempowering ways that undermine our ultimate happiness.

Our emotional world is like an onion. Sometimes when we acknowledge one layer of a past hurt and think we have dealt with it, something else may crop up and we have to address the original hurt at a deeper level.

Our Emotional World Is Ever Changing

Although our emotions and our reactions are effected react to the ebbs and flows of life, when our way of being in the world is mostly calm and it doesn’t don’t affect us or our relationships in negative ways, it is quite easy to maintain this even keel way of being in the world.

However, when our emotions are often in turmoil and our relationships are in conflict or dysfunction, we get caught in a viscous cycle of imbalance and over-reacting (or under-reacting if we fall into over-passivity)that is hard to overcome.

To overcome the Unconscious Influences that are causing our emotional world to be in chaos, we have to:

  1. Connect to our True Self …. while at the same time
  2. Address what is distancing us from our True Self.

Next week, I will discuss these two solutions – and how they work hand in hand to help us overcome our emotions and reactions that are not serving our best interests.

We will look at: What We Can Address; Understand; and Overcome the Effects of.

– Rosemary McCarthy@ November 15, 2019.

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