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Self-Forgiveness Returns Us to Our Innocence – Part 3/3


Self-understanding is the path to self-forgiveness. And it is sacred work. Working hand in hand, they strengthen our connection to our True Self, which paves the way to peace, happiness, and feeling empowered, and becoming our Best Self. We forgive our self of all ways we hurt our self, or others, because we are all innocent and loving beings at our core – we have just forgotten this. We only ever feel, react, or behave badly or in unhelpful ways from our unmet wounds, or from current stressors we cannot deal with. We inherited this way of dealing with life from Humanity's past. We are all influenced by left-over attitudes and behaviors from past generations that were based in fear, blame, projection, and protectionism, causing us to feel, react, and behave in hurtful, unhelpful, and unloving ways. Humanity is at the pinnacle of its evolution, and we are primed to address, and overcome, our injured selves.  In Parts 1 and 2 I discuss in depth why we act in ways that hurt our self – and others, and the importance of looking at what is driving us to act or react in unproductive or hurtful way.  I explained that it is Unconscious Influences we inadvertently anchored into our being that act upon us without our consent, and that must be addressed. In this Part 3, I will focus on Self-understanding and Self-reflection, which together allow for Self-forgiveness. This lays the ground work to connect the dots to the associated Unconscious Influences that are causing us to feel, react, and act in unhelpful and harmful ways – so that we can be free of their influence. Link for Part 1  HERE  for Part 2  HERE Unconscious Influences will have been affecting us – one way or another – whether we are aware of it or not: they act upon us without our conscious consent. And with all the stress and uncertainly we are living with these days, our Unconscious Influences may surface more than usual. Whenever they do, we either hurt our self, others, or both – as negative reactions and behaviors affect all involved. We hurt our self when we turn our fears, hurts, insecurities, and disappointments back onto our self. We may be overly-sensitive when disappointed by others and get hurt feelings. We may be tentative and afraid to try things. We may suffer from angst, apathy, insecurity, guilt, shame, or be overly-passive and not stand up for our self. We may become dysfunctional, or even an addict. As these all cause further internal angst and pain, we continue to think, act, and react in disempowering ways, and the cycle continues. We hurt others when we project our Unconscious Influences onto those around us. We may lash out in anger, blame them for our unhappiness, or are judgmental, critical, demanding, bullying, controlling, uncooperative, abusive – or any other harmful or disempowering way that may hurt or stress them. This causes conflict in our life and disharmony our relationships. It is the denial [...]

Self-Forgiveness Returns Us to Our Innocence – Part 3/32020-10-07T11:23:12+00:00

Self-Forgiveness Reconnects Us to Love – Part 2/3


In Part 1, I discussed how we only ever hurt our self, others, or act badly in any way, because we are disconnected from our True Self and misaligned from the unconditional love within it. (link for Part 1 HERE) Valid fears, and continual onslaughts of unexpected changes, bad experiences, and stressors – much of what many of us are now experiencing because of the corona virus can cause us to become misaligned, and therefore act badly – act uncharacteristically. Recently we, or those around us, may have acted or reacted badly. And even though these days we may have less patience than usual, at this time we all need extra compassion and understanding – for our self and for others.  This is why it is so vital to forgive our self, and those around us – for recent or current poor attitudes, reactions, or behaviors. This post/article focuses mainly on self-forgiveness. As we are all evolving, which is about reconnecting to the love within and living life from that place of love,  we have to clear our emotional bodies of what blocks this connections. The ways we view and approach life and the attitudes, reactions, and behaviors that stem from these all affect our sense of peace, happiness, empowerment, and our relationships. Hurts we experienced, or those we put upon our self  – as well as those we put onto others, create blocks in our emotional bodies. We are not aware of these blocks, nonetheless, they affect us. Because unless or until addressed and dealt with, blocks in our emotional bodies distance us from our power-base causing us to see and navigate life in ways that may be ineffective for our self, or hurtful to others. This blog article is based on concepts in my books  "Your Journey to Peace ..."  About here  and "Why We Are the Way We Are"  About here "Overcoming Our Unconscious Influences, such as Anger, Hurt Feeling, etc ..." due out this Fall. About here  (Cover images below)  The ego loves to incite drama, and it will instill guilt and/or shame into our psyche over anything it can – especially anything with a hint of negativity. This causes us to experiences subtle feelings of unease, and we further start to think, act, and react in ways that do not serve our ultimate peace and happiness. The underlying causes of this unease are from the past, and therefore have no substance. As such, they are only a trick of the mind and should be relinquished. Although we have the ability to move past hurts, guilt, shame, and how these affect us, we inherited Humanity's habit of  holding onto to them. Self-forgiveness frees us from the hold the past has on us. It requires looking at and releasing the underlying past buried emotions that actually cause any negative, hurtful, or disempowering way we may have approached life that did not come from a loving place. Clearing Our Emotional Bodies We clear our emotional bodies by: acknowledging and working [...]

Self-Forgiveness Reconnects Us to Love – Part 2/32020-09-19T00:06:23+00:00

Newsletter July 2020 – Gratitude and Our Relationships


Relationships are difficult at best of times, but when we are stressed, they present even more challenges. Our mind works in curious ways when we are stressed or frustrated. It can create stories about life, and others that focus on the negative. This is always unhelpful, but especially so these days, as some of us may be acting and reacting in uncharacteristic ways, creating conflicts with others that up our already high stress and frustration levels. Instead of getting hurt, upset, or defensive when those around us act out, we need be each other's soft place to land. We can head off  hurt feelings and conflicts if we remember that we are all reeling from what is now upon us, and by being forgiving and compassionate to ourselves, and those around us if, and when, uncharacteristic attitudes, reactions, or behaviors raise their ugly head, allowing us to keep the peace. We are all managing this as best we can. )This month’s message is from a section on “Gratitude and Appreciation," from my upcoming Book 2 of my ‘Our Journey’s to Peace’ Series, which I have tweaked a bit to reflect how our relationships may be impacted with all we are going through these days). To Stay Updated, Sign-up for my Newsletter  here   As we continue managing as best we can through this pandemic with the stresses that arise and the restrictions put upon us, we must ensure that we remain as positive and grateful as we can for what we do have, what we are allowed to do while still staying safe, and for our loved ones – those we can no longer see, and those we share our homes with. We all have our comfort levels about what we are willing to do as restrictions are lifted. Some of us will do all that is now allowed – while keeping to safety measures, while others of us will still be very slow to venture out or be with people. The alienation we have all experienced may have caused some of us to become a bit more sensitive than before. Those of us who are very sociable, or whose bubble is small or even non-existent, may feel hurt when others we normally see do not yet want to get-together – even when following safety measures. Those of us living in our housing bubble with family, or friends, are still restricted to way less outings and get-togethers than before. We are therefore relegated to spending most of our time with the same people – without much opportunity for other social outlets. The stress of this can pile up. We may get testy. Impatient. And we may start to look at the idiosyncrasies of those we now spend so much time with as no longer cute or helpful, but as annoying. And those of us who have had to create a workspace in cramped or makeshift quarters – especially if with children at home, are very vulnerable to the stress of it [...]

Newsletter July 2020 – Gratitude and Our Relationships2020-08-11T12:50:53+00:00


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