As the Seasonal Holidays will be so different this year, and we will surely not have all the celebrations we are so used to and hold so dear, I felt is appropriate to repost part of a previous message from my April Newsletter.
Human contact and regular get-togethers with family and friends are so important to our sense of well-being. However,
Even when missing our loved ones or longing to spend time with good friends,
there are ways to help waylay the sadness, keep our spirits up,
and our connection to them alive in us.
Life is ever-changing. With its the ebbs and flows, things and people come into our life, and go out of our life. Circumstances change. It is human nature to miss what was – especially what we loved and were comfortable with. However, it is more helpful to us that we love what was, rather than miss what was.
Remembering what was with love creates loving feelings within us. Loving feelings dispel sadness, longing, and loneliness. They create expansion in our being. When we live from an expanded place, we are connected to Universal love. Connected to Universal love, we more easily find contentment and happiness with whatever we are doing. Appreciation for what is. Our sense of belonging comes mainly from this connection; not so much from others or circumstances.
Missing what was creates negative feelings within us. Our consciousness reads missing as lack. As despair – void of love, hope, and appreciation. This creates contraction in our being. When we live from a contracted place, we rely mainly on our human emotions for our contentment and happiness, where sadness, longing, and loneliness can easily thrive.
Move to Loving What Was – from Missing What Was.
To move to LOVING – from missing what was, we simply remember what we miss lovingly. We do this by:
- Bring into your heart the feeling of what you miss created within
- Revel in the feeling.
- Hugging yourself – or a pillow help to create the feeling.
- Smile about it.
- Write about it.
- Bring to mind the details. The sights. The sounds. The smells.
- Dig out old pictures and lovingly gaze at them, embrace them, and hold them to your heart.
- Do, or bring to mind, whatever creates that positive and loving feeling you remember about what you miss.
The more we connect to the feeling what we miss created in us, the more the nice, loving feelings associated with it become alive in us, and the less we actually miss them.
Although loving what was will not bring us physical hugs, we can still summon up some of that warm and fuzzy feeling getting a big hug from a loved one brings us.
I wish you health, safety, ease in getting all you need, and some connection with loved ones throughout this challenging time.
However you spend this holiday season, I wish you a blessed time – hopefully with some nice treats, good food, and at least a call or video conference with loved ones.
©Rosemary McCarthy, originally April 7, 2020, updated Dec 24, 2020..
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