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Monthly Archives: April 2021

Loving – Instead of Missing What Was

2021-05-19T18:09:37+00:00

Spring brings with it the promise of brighter, freer, and easy breezy days. However, this year that promise does not hold all it usually does. And even though we can see a light at the end of the tunnel, our patience may be waning, our nerves frayed a little, and our tempers raw. The continued restrictions, lack of freedom to do as we want, and reduced contact with our loved ones – are so counterintuitive to our sense of well-being.  And although we know we will shortly have more freedoms than recently, we also know that the free-as-a-bird easy-breezy feeling we all long for is still a way off, and is very tentative.  (This is a repost from last April, tweaked a bit to reflect this year's reality? ). So, as we move through the Spring and possibly still feel the heaviness of the restrictions and long for light-and-breezy gatherings with loved ones, remembering what we have loved – and dream about what will come, helps keep love alive in our heart and a sense of lightness in our being. Even while missing the touch of our loved ones or longing for outings and regular get-togethers with friends and family, there are ways to help waylay the sadness, keep our spirits up, and our connection to them alive in us Life is ever-changing. With its ebbs and flows, things and people come into our lives and go out of our life. Circumstances change. It is human nature to miss what was – especially what we loved and were comfortable with. However, it is more helpful to us that we love what was, rather than miss what was. Remembering what was with love creates loving feelings within us. Loving feelings dispel sadness, longing, and loneliness. They create expansion in our being. When we live from an expanded place, we are connected to Universal love. Connected to Universal love, we more easily find contentment and happiness with whatever we are doing. Appreciation for what is. Our sense of belonging comes mainly from this connection; not so much from others or circumstances. Missing what was creates negative feelings within us. Our consciousness reads missing as lack. As despair – void of love, hope, and appreciation. This creates contraction in our being. When we live from a contracted place, we rely mainly on our human emotions for our contentment and happiness, where sadness, longing, and loneliness can easily thrive. Move to Loving What Was – from Missing What Was. Bring into your heart the feeling of what you miss created within Revel in the feeling. Hugging yourself – or a pillow help to create the feeling. Smile about it. Write about it. Bring to mind the details. The sights. The sounds. The smells. Dig out old pictures and lovingly gaze at them, embrace them, and hold them to your heart. Do, or bring to mind, whatever creates that positive and loving feeling you remember about what you miss. The more we connect to the feeling what [...]

Loving – Instead of Missing What Was2021-05-19T18:09:37+00:00

Newsletter #39 March 2021: I Am Humming Again

2021-04-22T17:22:21+00:00

We all have our contentment barometers that help us realize that we are feeling – or doing better than we were – whatever feeling or doing better means for each of us. Mine is humming. I’m sure you have yours.  Maybe it’s eagerly hopping out of bed in the morning, exercising more regularly, eating better, picking up that guitar or paintbrush again, watching less tv, going to bed earlier or … And these – or any good, uplifting, or healthy habits work off each other to further make us feel better – because once we do start to feel better, we have stepped onto a more positive life track. Spring Has Sprung ? And I Wish You A Delightful Season.  Whichever Spring Religious Traditions You Embrace, I Hope Your Holi Celebration Was Spirited; Your Passover Week Is Feeling Blessed; or that You Have a Beautiful Easter   (You can also read this in your browser, see it as it was sent out, and sign-up for this free monthly publication here ) When I realize that I have been humming again, and/or I automatically start singing a beautiful / uplifting song that just comes to me – either out loud or in my head (sometimes dancing or even skipping to it – which is kind of embarrassing if this happens when I am outside as I’m not always immediately aware I am doing it?), I get this ah-ha moment where I realize … oh yeah, I am feeling better. We have all been affected in different ways this past year, and we’ve probably all had up and down days, weeks, or even months. I find it a beautiful testament to our global spirit that most of us have managed through it all – without being too badly scathed.    For me … Throughout the latter part of the winter, I had just been feeling dull. Not exactly depressed, but just a low – couldn’t care less sort of energy. But recently, my contentment barometer went off. I found myself humming again. Towards the end, I have given a few simple instructions on how to create your custom-made affirmation practice  – similar to one that helped me come out of my winter funk. And at the very end, I have included a beautiful, uplifting Latoka Prayer.  A few weeks ago, when I was out walking one quiet evening, I realized I was humming again – and to be honest, I was skipping a little (it was quiet and dark, so Phew! there were no embarrassing moments. ? And since humming is my contentment barometer, I got that ah-ha moment … ah yes, I am feeling better again – more light-hearted. Humming became my contentment barometer one day many years ago .., when I was in the gym changing room and a woman nearby was humming as she was getting changed into her everyday clothes. (This was shortly before I started doing inner work to address how I was allowing my frustrations to play out in [...]

Newsletter #39 March 2021: I Am Humming Again2021-04-22T17:22:21+00:00

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