This is a post I created from my February 2018 Newsletter message.?
We all want to be happy. We all want to feel loved.
And we all feel good when someone shows they care about us.
Even though Valentines Day is considered to be for couples expressing and showing their love and appreciation to each other, let’s use this day that’s deemed for LOVE …
… to Love ourselves and to spread Love – wherever we can, with whoever crosses our path, and with people we know who would benefit from a little bit of attention or an expression of love.
We actually teach our children to do this. And we teach them to be excited about Valentines Day. We may buy flowers, put up decorations, or have a special desert.
Excitement mounts for children as Valentines Day approaches and handmade drawings of hearts, flowers, and chocolate are brought home from school. Parents are asked to prepare something for the class Valentine party. Valentines cards are prepared for classmates.
And so no child feels bad, left out, or unloved the children are to give cards to everyone – not just their friends. We should follow that lead.
Although many of us look forward to and experience wonderful Valentines Days, many do not – and for many reasons. With Valentines Day being so hyped up it brings with it mixed feelings for many people.
Because it’s promoted for sweethearts, people who are not in relationships, or not in loving ones, often feel bad.
For people who are not coupled up, this day may bring with it a sense of loneliness – even if they may not usually feel lonely, or are alone by choice. The commercial build-up is so in-our-face that its hard not to feel any effects from it.
For people in relationships who are not getting along, February 14th may bring with it sadness – for what is not.
Let’s use this day to ensure we feel good, our loved ones feel loved,
and extend simple expressions of love to all those whose path we cross
or who we know may feel sad, lonely, or left out on this day.
If Valentines Day brings with it good feelings for you – share the warm feelings with others through your demeanor or with simple gestures.
If this day brings with it loneliness or sadness for you, extending a loving gesture to another will not only benefit them, it will also benefit you. Any expression of love we make to another sparks feelings of love within our being. There are many simple ways to make our self feel good and to express loving thoughtfulness to others.
(There are links to some of my articles / blog posts on relationships as well as to my full blog and website at the bottom of this newsletter).
If Married or In a Relationship
Don’t let this day go unnoticed. If your relationship is strong be sure to recognize Valentines Day and show appreciation for your partner – in one way or another. If your relationship is rocky or stressful take advantage of this day and try to rekindle loving feelings.
And Valentines gestures don’t have to be fancy or expensive. Just don’t allow cynicism about the commercialization of Valentines Day to affect you showing love and appreciation to your chosen life-partner in some way.
Loving gestures water our relationships and make strong ones grow stronger and help weaker ones become stronger. (The post below “Relationships and Our 5 Love Languages” explains different ways our partner may feel our love).
Honor the day for yourself. Indulge yourself. Have that goodie you usually avoid. Buy yourself flowers. Make a Spa Day appointment. Buy yourself something you’ve been wanting. Do something you like. We do this for our self because we are worth it!
Extending Love Out into the World
?Wish everyone you meet a Happy Valentines Day. Your warm greeting may be just what someone needs to brighten their day.
?Send a message, or even better make a phone call, to someone far away you know who may be sad, alone, or feeling lonely. Knowing someone is thinking of them makes a person feel loved and more connected to others.
?Call, or drop in on and/or bring a little something to an elderly person you know who has little contact with people and may feel alienated from the world. Small unexpected gestures can do a world of good for the elderly – especially those who have lost contact with or may not have family close by. Many elderly people are not computer /social media savvy and often miss out on shared messages.
?Visit a friend and bring chocolate, a single rose, or any other small item to someone you know who may be alone of feel lonely on this day.
?Bring cupcakes to work – to share with your co-workers.
Warm gestures help!
We live in a very disjointed world. Many people are lonely.
Others feel alienated.
Some are simply tired or frustrated with life.
Let’s express love on Valentines Day in a way that makes us, and others, feel good.
Let’s take this commercial phenomenon that many feel conflicted over and turn it around to become the highest expression of love by appreciating ourselves, and by extending ourselves to others in helpful and thoughtful ways.
Blessings to all of you and I wish you a Happy Valentines Day and Week.????
©Rosemary McCarthy, from February 2018, updated February 6th, 2022.
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