My Coaching Services are Based on My Published and Upcoming Books Your Journey to Peace ...; Why We Ae the Way We Are; and Relationship Intelligence ... (due out Spring 2024) My aim is to support people become more Conscious and Intentional - so they are happier, feel more contented and empowered, and are able to create more harmonious relationships. I offer a variety of coaching services in all areas of personal development and relationships, such as 1-on-1 coaching group coaching live workshops (currently in Montreal area* online workshops 2-6 month mentoring programs Compassion Key Healing Sessions. I am a Certified Compassion Key Practitioner. This practice/technique helps us heal our current hurts, pains, frustrations, and fears by offering compassion and unconditional love to our inner- child and the original, unconscious wounds that are causing many of hurts, misunderstanding, and conflicts with others. For more info and/or to work with me My Bio. Contact me at: email@example.com My current focus is as always on Personal Development - _ also on the 3 sub-headings of my up coming book. Choose Your IDEAL Partner; Improve Your Current Relationship; Make Peace with Your Family Relationship To support the 1st section, Choose Your Ideal Partner, have I have created a Dedicated Facebook Group Choose Your Ideal Partner - for Women where I regularly give live presentations, post dating tips, host dating expert guest speakers, and hold Q&A’s. Relationship Intelligence: Choose Your Ideal Partner, Improve Your Current Relationship, Make Peace With Your Family Relationships For more information or to join my NEW Newsletter Relationships Stream - contact me a at: firstname.lastname@example.org To support this coaching program, I have also created a Dedicated Facebook Group Choose Your Ideal Partner - for Women where I regularly give live presentations, post dating tips, host dating expert guest speakers, and hold Q&A’s. So, if you are a female - in your 20's, 30's, 40's, 60's, 50's and beyond, and you've been looking for a fulfilling, long-term relationship or marriage – but you're frustrated and fed-up of ... 🔸Dating that goes nowhere 🔸Disappointing relationship after relationship that leave you baffled and heartbroken because, they loose their sizzle and fall apart he pulls away it ends abruptly for no apparent reason he ends up not being who he promoted himself to be you are not attracting men who are worth your time and energy to even explore having a relationship with ... ... join me in this Private Facebook Group., and I will guide you to Call-In and Choose Your IDEAL Partner - as well as help you through the process This Fall I held various in-person workshop in my area. Montreal the West Island, and I plan to hold online ones this Spring. So stay tuned, and for more information or to join my new Newsletter Relationships Stream - contact me a at: email@example.com Hugs, Rosemary💞🌞🙏🏼 ©Rosemary McCarthy, updated December 10th, 2023 ---------------------------------------------------- About my Fall 2023 In-Person Workshops (my Spring Workshops Will be Similar "Attracting and Choosing Your IDEAL Partner – for If you are a [...]
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To Transform Your Dating Life – and greatly improve your chance of calling-in – and choosing the life-partner you dream of, it is vital to … … bring more consciousness and intentionality to your dating – so you can co-create the beautiful life with a man you yearn for. Maybe you’ve been frustrated and fed-up and have almost given up "finding the one" because of: Dating that goes nowhere Disappointing relationship after relationship that leave you baffled and heartbroken because: The relationship loses its sizzle and falls apart He slowly distances himself from you It ends abruptly – in your mind for no apparent reason. He ends up not being who you thought he was or who he promoted himself to be By bringing a sense of consciousness and intentionality to your dating, you can avoid these hurtful, confusing, and heartbreaking situations, as … you can create what you need to call-in – and ensure you choose your IDEAL partner (not the men who may be fun, sexy, gorgeous, charismatic, etc. who ghost you, break your heart, or do not align with you and your long-terms plans And although it may seem impossible to find a man to co-create the loving, supportive, passionate, long-term relationship you dream of, You CAN Have Your Dream Relationship, whereby You feel loved, cherished, and supported He respects your time, opinions, and efforts You effectively communicate with each – in a way that gets the results YOU want – and keep him engaged with you – even though he sees and navigates life through a different lens You are listened to – and feel safe expressing your desires, expectations, and even your disappointments – knowing there will be no recriminations You enjoy many activities together – while still allowing each other any alone time need You hold the same values on important things such as, money, family, vacations, children, down-time, work habits, religion/spirituality, etc. You can openly discuss issues that crop up – without blow-ups and before they become mountains. Or something more similar to Your Dream Relationship 🔸🔸🔸🔸🔸 I am a writer and coach of personal development and relationships This article / blog post is from a section I have been recently writing: “Decisions for Successful Dating – for Women" from Part 1 “Choose Your Ideal Partner” of my upcoming book, Relationship Intelligence… If you are a woman looking for a loving, supportive, fulfilling, and passionate long-term relationship or marriage with a man ... ... you can start bringing that sense of consciousness and intentionality to your dating process by becoming clear on what exactly you are looking for – and setting up parameters that support this, such as, Your Relationship Goals – Including Being Clear on Your End-goal – and the Details of how you expect each stage to play out as you move forward Your Dating Boundaries – what is ok for you, what you feel comfortable with – and what will support your long-term relationship goals. Your Online Profile – so that you [...]
Relationship Intelligence, Choose Your Ideal Partner, Improve Your Relationship, Heal /Make Peace With Your Family Relationships – is the 2nd book in my 'Our Journeys to Peace' Series. It is due out Winter 2023/24 You can stay updated on release date from: My Newsletter My Journey to Peace Facebook Page or My Choose Your Ideal Partner - for Women Facebook Page. The aim of all my writing and coaching programs is to bring a sense of Understanding, Consciousness, and Intentionality to the reader or attendee. In Relationship Intelligence ... I do this in the sections by explaining: 💗In Choose Your IDEAL Partner: As you bring a sense of Understanding, Consciousness, and Intentionality to your dating, you greatly improve your chances of finding the life-partner you dream of –and who you can live the rest of your life with in love and harmony. I show how ensuring you are coming from a place of empowerment; pin-pointing – in detail – your relationship goals; how to put yourself out there in a way that aligns with those goals; the important questions to ask to see if you are on the same page; and how the different sexes view dating and relationships. – so that you can avoid misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and heartbreaks – are the hallmarks to calling-in and choosing your IDEAL Partner. 💗In Improve Your Relationship: By bringing Understanding and that sense of Consciousness and Intentionality to your current relationship, you can work through what may otherwise be difficult and hurtful scenarios with more love, understanding, and patience. We are all different with differing personalities and backgrounds and ways of managing life – that help us feel emotionally safe and secure. Most of us are just doing our best to manage life because we have been birthed from past generations who didn't adhere to the concepts of unconditional love or the value of focusing on the positive. This has caused us to judge and blame others and to focus on the negative – and our couple relationships take much of the brunt of this. With an understanding that most of us unknowingly adopted defense mechanisms and habitual patterns of acting and reacting from past unhealed wounds that aim to protect our emotional world, becoming conscious of our – and our partner's triggers and sensitivities – and offering love and compassion as you each works through these goes a long way to improving your relationship. 💗In Heal /Make Peace With Your Family Relationships. The saying "we cannot choose our families, but we can choose our friends" was birthed from the reality of how challenging family relationships often are. By bringing that same sense of Understanding and Consciousness as in the above section to familial upsets, you can more easily be Intentional in how you deal with those who upset you or who upsets others. And although family riffs sometimes never get resolved, you can still make peace with the fact that you tried your best. Understanding [...]
(I am currently setting up a Coaching Program "Choose Your Ideal Partner", which will include a private Facebook Group, Live workshops in Montreal starting October 21, 2023, + Online Workshops in November. Contact me at: firstname.lastname@example.org for more information. Rosemary💗) Relationships are the vehicle that best allows us to work out our issues. Our pains and fears. Our neediness. Our aggression. Our protective devices. It is where we most play out our reactionary or passive styles. This is especially true in our familial and couple relationships This article is based on my upcoming book: Relationship Intelligence: Choose Your Ideal Partner, Improve Your Relationship, Heal Your Family Relationships which is an extension of Ch. 5 "Relationships" in my 1st book: Your Journey to Peace ... Our Couple Relationships What most of us look for in our intimate relationships is companionship, and for the other to love, help, and support us in life. In our younger days, we may look for the right person to build a family with. We may also look for a partner to offer us security. And from a human perspective, this is all fine. However, from a higher, spiritual perspective, the purpose of all our relationships is for soul growth: to connect more fully to our True Self - so that we can live life coming from a place of LOVE. In fact, all our interactions with others offer us opportunities to come from that place of love: to offer the qualities of love to others. (See my post The Qualities of Love / the Qualities of Fear. The link is also at the end. Because of the intimacy required, our relationships are the best vehicle to work through our unprocessed hurts and pains from our past. In our day-to-day life, any Unconscious Influences we may hold, like neediness, defensiveness, or aggressive, controlling, or passive tendencies. naturally arise. It is unprocessed hurts and pains from our past that caused us to create these Unconscious Influences to protect our hearts and psyches. These, along with our individual personalities, differing ways of approaching life, and the various defensive and protective mechanisms we created to protect our hearts and psyches are what creates hurt feelings in us and conflicts with others. Our couple relationships also often hold expectations that cannot be met. And our communication skills are often weak. With presumed, unvoiced, or misunderstood expectations and poor communication we may get hurt feelings or react badly in frustration, and our unconscious, habitual responses rear their ugly head, and instead of coming from a place of love and understanding, we unknowingly invite conflict into our relationships. Our relationships are actually set up to trigger our Unconscious Influences - by others pushing our buttons. This is why our relationships are often so difficult! Unconscious Influence create havoc in our relationships. They cause us to navigate life from a place of fear, protectionism, defensiveness, and suspiciousness. We are overly sensitive and prone to blame to other for how we feel and for not understanding us. The emotional instability and feelings [...]
The more consciousness we bring to our dating, the better they turn out for us. The more consciousness we bring to our current relationships, the more easily they flourish. And the more evolved and conscious we become - aware of our wants, needs, and expectations - as well as any ways of being that may be detracting us from getting what we want from our dating or relationships, the more confident and empowered we become. Being more conscious allows us to more easily trust our hearts - that they are showing us a true picture when choosing a spouse or life-partner (or even friends or a business partner) - instead of one created from denial or neediness. Consciousness brings maturity to dating, and to relationships. Read Part 1 Read Part 3 The more evolved and conscious we become, the less we will have to be wary of our unconscious influences (hurt feelings, neediness, aggressive or overly-passive reactions, etc.) luring us into hurtful or chaotic situations. Nor will we have to be so vigilant at continuously examining our emotions, desires, or motives. Neither will we have to be so cautious of others’ motives. When we bring consciousness and the maturity it holds to our dating and relationships, we are working at higher vibration capacities. Our radars become better attuned to the vibrations of others, and if something is off we will cue into it more easily. 🔸🔸🔸🔸🔸 This article is based on my upcoming book: Relationship Intelligence: Choose Your Ideal Partner, Improve Your Relationship, Heal Your Family Relationships - due out Fall 2023 which is an extension of Ch. 5 "Relationships" in my 1st book: Your Journey to Peace ... To stay updated, Sign-up for my free monthly Newsletter 🔸🔸🔸🔸🔸 The more conscious we become, the greater our connection to our True Self, and the more we feel guided towards partners based on true soul parings where both can thrive ... ... where there is equality, acceptance, and forgiveness - instead confusion, hot then cold attitudes, jealousy, possessiveness, or flip flopping about where the dating or relationship will go. In conscious relationships, we encourage each other to be the best we can be. And because our strength and self-confidence comes from within, we are not invested in changing our partner or making them acquiesce to our desires. We also understand that our partner gets his or her strength and guidance from their True Self, and if that guidance is calling them to move on from the relationship we will not be so inclined towards drama, anger, revenge, or the plethora of negative responses breaking up has caused in the past. As we uncover and work through any unconscious influences (that show up as hurt feelings, and habitual, knee-jerk reactions) that affect how we think, react, and act, we will choose our partners, spouses, and life-partners more consciously. We will become stronger in ourselves and have more clarity. We will no longer be inclined to choose partners from a place [...]
When we have no true connection to the honesty of our feelings and the depths of the emotions they hold, we feel and react from unconscious influences that have no bearing upon current situations – rather than respond to what is presenting itself now. When our feelings and reactions are based on unconscious influences, they are ineffective at giving us satisfying results in the present; nor do they bring us ultimate peace and happiness. This post is from my upcoming book and Workshops: Overcome - Anger, Frustration, Hurt Feelings, Impatience, and Blaming Others for Your Unhappiness (working title). About Book HERE It is also a companion post to Worksheet: Connecting the Dots to Our Feelings, Emotions, and Reactions,” See HERE to access. Connecting the dots between what we are feeling and how we are reacting is scary stuff. It requires that we face our self. That we admit our vulnerabilities. Our fears. Our hurts. Our sensitivities. However, doing so helps us to understand why our dealings with others may leave us feeling hurt, frustrated, or disappointed, or that our automatic reactions do not produce the results we want. Further connecting the dots between our feelings and reactions – to their root causes helps us to overcome any hurt feelings or ineffective reactions or behaviors that do not give us satisfactory results. Overcoming Our Unconscious Influences - is what my upcoming book is about. About Book here When we are frustrated, get our feelings hurt, or we react in ineffective ways like becoming angry, are critical, or blame another for how we feel, it is usually because ... we held expectations of them that were unmet we are disappointed in them, or in a situation they created, our neediness caused us to be extra sensitive, we allowed their bad reactions to affect our state of mind Whatever caused us to feel bad, they are all still our feelings. And we can do something about shifting them – and shift them we must!, Because it is in doing so that we begin to feel empowered and in control of our life. Understanding our feelings, and why we react in ineffective ways is empowering. Unmet Expectations: We often think others think like us, that their focus is where ours is, and that they place the same level of importance on the subject at hand that we do. People do not; nor can they read our mind. Many of our issues with others are the result of bad communication, ineffective communication, or a lack of communication. People don't usually want to make us feel bad or disappoint us; they simply don't realize they are doing so. They may feel and navigate life very differently we do. No matter our differences, we all want to feel good and have peace in our life. And this not only looks different to us all, but we all also go about seeking it in different ways. Being Disappointed: When promises are broken, or what we expect of another does [...]
What Would Love Do? About Ourselves – and Regarding Others This text is from my February 2023 Newsletter Message. Sign Up to Receive Future Ones or Read Past Ones. ?How we perceive and internalize what happens to us – dictates how we will feel afterwards ?How we respond to disappointments, misunderstandings, and others’ unwanted or aggressive attitudes or behaviors – dictates the atmosphere afterwards ?How we deal with unexpected or unwanted situations – dictates how satisfactorily they will be resolved And it Is How Much Love We Have for Ourselves that dictates how we perceive and internalize, how we respond, how we deal with situations – and how much we can express love to others – and out into the world. Self-Love Self-love means that we are accepting, understanding, compassionate, and forgiving to ourselves – we are basically kind to ourselves. When we come from a place of love, we think, speak, act, and react from a place of love – and empowerment. Focusing on the positive aspects of ourselves and others is uplifting and empowering. Focusing on the negative aspects of ourselves and others is deflating and disempowering. And it is from this place of empowerment that we can be accepting, understanding, compassionate, and forgiving to others – we can basically be kind to those around us. Ensure Your Thoughts, Words, and Reactions Align with Self-Love Self-love requires being conscious and aware of what you are letting into your mind and life – and what you are putting out into the world. When we think, speak, react, and act unconsciously, we are at the beck call of Unconscious Influences. Based on unresolved past hurts and pains that we project into the present, these influences cause us to feel, react, and behave in habitual and protective ways that have no bearing on what is currently happening. This unconscious way of dealing with life and others causes unwarranted anger, hurt feelings, misunderstandings, and conflicts. To get to a place of loving yourself, your thoughts, words, reactions, and behaviors must align with, ?The way you want to feel, ? How you want life to show up, and ?The kind of relationships you want to have. If you want to feel love in your life and have peace around you, you must come from a place of love – and extend Love’s Qualities to those around you. If your thoughts, words, reactions, and behaviors do not align with what you want, you have to exchange them with loving, compassionate, and forgiving ones – rather than berating yourself, complaining about a situation, or criticizing or blaming others. This is vital because how we think about ourselves and how we deal with others and situations dictates what shows up in our life and affects the quality of our relationships. Replacing negative thinking requires consciously training our minds to shift to positive thoughts about ourselves and others, and hopeful thoughts about the future. And replacing is really re-programming our habitual ways of approaching life. This article [...]
In part 1, I discussed how the hurts or conflicts that arise in our relationships are mostly due to Unconscious Influences – to habitual thought and reactionary patterns that run our lives. In part 2, I discussed how our habitual thought and reactionary responses often do not get us the results we are looking for, and how they can create hurt feelings in us, and conflicts in our relationships. In this part 3, I explain how neediness and passive responses also affect us, and I sum this 3 part article up by explaining how we can become aware of – and override any conditioned unconscious responses that may bring us initial satisfaction, but do not ultimately give us the results we want or the sense of peace, happiness, and harmonious relationships we yearn for. You can read Part 1 HERE Part 2 HERE But before I continue, I'd just like to mention that the main takeaway from this series is basically that: Improving our connection to our True Self improves – and deepens our connection to others. They are intertwined. Passive Responses: Passive responses come from feeling disempowered. Although passive responses may appear to be neutral, as there are no blatant outward signs, they are very different because passive responses hold an emotional component – just like aggressive ones. Sometimes the hurts, feelings, disappointments, or perceived injustices are not voiced at all, while at other times they are, but are tinged with so much emotion and/or neediness that the other individual turns a blind ear. In both cases, we are not heard. Either way, the emotions are internalized affecting both the individual and the relationship. These internalizations harm us because buried emotions add another layer to the cavern between “us and us,” and our connection to our True Self is further weakened. This article is based on my books, “Your Journey to Peace … ” and “Why We Are the Way We Are” both are available in print and e-book from Amazon. Link to About Books Link to Amazon. Passive responses harm the relationship because as our true feelings are not voiced (or heard) we have not addressed the hurt or disappointment we feel, and we remain inwardly angry towards the other for not understanding or taking into consideration our feelings, or seeing our viewpoint. And if we are do try to make ourselves heard but are ineffective, before we approach the subject again, reflecting on our approach last time and possibly adjusting it could help us getting heard this time. We can ask ourselves: Are we being needy – only thinking about our needs and perspective? Are we negative – only focusing on what is wrong or may go wrong? Are we overly emotional – crying at any perceived slight or criticism? Could we be acting passive-aggressively – sighing or putting on a sad face rather than sharing our thoughts or feelings? Whether we elect these attitudes because we don’t like to speak our mind, are unable to articulate or [...]
(You can return to Journey's blog page here ) Overcome Your Unconscious Influences, such as Anger, Frustration, Hurt Feelings, Neediness, and Blaming Others for Your Unhappiness ... ... is your guide - that helps you Overcome what is Keeping you Unhappy, Frustrated, in Mediocrity, or in Conflict with Others, by ... Explaining that the Path to a happy, peaceful, empowered, and conflict-free life requires that you see life and situations through a clear lens and others as who they really are - a lens unmarred by Unconscious Influences. Showing You that When You See Life and others through that clearer lens, you no longer bring echoes of the past into the present - echoes that caused you to feel bad, take things personally, think or act in disempower ways, or create disharmony with others by your reactions. Guiding You to Incorporate the Two Elements Needed to overcome the Unconscious Influences that run your life - without your consent - and keep you unhappy, in mediocrity, or in constant conflict with others. Firstly, you must ensure you are connected to the love, power, and wisdom of your True Self – connected to your essence – who you are at our core. Secondly, you must dismantle any Unconscious Influences that are in the way of you accessing the connection. 🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋 Other Books in this "Our Journeys to Peace Series" (To read more in detail about Overcome ... scroll down) Book 1 of 'Our Journeys to Peace ' Series - Why We Are the Way We Are - Published. See Book Covers at End Upcoming Books About Book 2 - Relationship Intelligence, Choose Your Ideal Partner, Improve Your Current Relationship, Heal Your Family Relationships (Title was Relationships in an Evolving World) - due out Fall 2023. About Book 3 - Overcome Your Unconscious Influences, such as Anger Frustration, Hurt Feelings, and Blaming Others for Your Unhappiness- due out Winter 2023-24 To stay updated for when these become available, Sign-up for my Newsletter 🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋 Overcome Your Unconscious Influences … 🦋Recaps concepts from Book 1, Why We Are the Way We Are, which helps you understand why people behave in the ways they do 🦋Offers deeper insight into why you may feel stuck in certain areas of your life 🦋 Guides you HOW to get unstuck 🦋Helps you to understand WHY you feel hurt, get angry, are constantly frustrated, and tend to blame others for your unhappiness - and for not being at your emotional beck-and-call. In this book 3 of my 'Our Journeys to Peace' series, ... you learn how to better navigate life - so that you can have a more peaceful existence, and create more harmonious relationships. Overcome ... shows you how to🔸 pinpoint 🔸acknowledge 🔸and override any attitudes or habitual patterns of behaviors or reactions – conscious or unconscious - you may unknowingly fall prey to - that are holding you back from ... ... becoming your happiest, most empowered, Best Self - in all areas of your life - including being able to create harmonious [...]
Most of us have at least encountered moments of peace and even pure bliss. Some of us feel peaceful most of the time. Others of us vacillate between feeling peaceful and being worried, stressed, or even fearful. While others of us can rarely access feeling peaceful – never mind feel blissful. Whenever we experience life from a peaceful place, we are living connected to our soul – to our True Self. Connected to our soul, we are in touch with our emotional world. Peaceful Honesty is a concept from my first book, Your Journey to Peace ..., Connected to our True Self we are in touch with our emotional world and are open, honest, and fearless. We are authentic. We have no need to hide our feelings, desires, dreams, hurts, pains, or fears. Nor do we feel the need to defend, react, or attack. We trust life and the insights that come to us. Disconnected from our True Self and our honest feelings and emotions we cannot tap into feelings of peacefulness, as we are living life at a surface level – and at the beck and call of our Unconscious Influences. Any negative or hurtful experiences we are still holding onto or any from our past we that we keep buried influence how we approach life. Unconscious Influences cause us to live mind-centered and from a place of fear, suspiciousness, and protectionism. Living mind and fear-centered, we are disconnected from our TRUE feelings – and are afraid to show – or even acknowledge our vulnerabilities. being mind-centered causes us to bring echoes of the past into present circumstances. These echoes of the past created stories in our minds about how life should be and how others should be towards us. We then create expectations based on these stories that have nothing to do with what is happening in the present. We may be afraid to show our vulnerabilities, but they come out anyway in covert ways – by our reactions and behaviors. We, therefore, navigate life from a closed, limited, superficial, reactionary, defensive, and dishonest place. To access that feeling of Peaceful Honesty, we must be open and able to express our fears and vulnerabilities. Once we acknowledge, look at, and work through the real cause of our current anxieties, disappointments, or anger and we clear away the cobwebs from our past that are causing these, our fears dissipate and we open the door to living in Peaceful Honesty. Peaceful Honesty The term Peaceful Honesty came to me one morning about 10 years ago, as I awoke with an intensely peaceful feeling. It was as though every breath I took that morning went deep down into the core of my being. For years I had worked on acknowledging, accessing, and releasing much of my old, buried hurts and feelings. By the time this feeling of Peaceful Honesty came upon me that morning, I had unraveled many layers that lay between me and my True Self, and the peace that was lying beneath them started [...]