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It’s Not Me–It’s You. It’s Not You–It’s Me. It’s Both. It’s Neither – Newsletter October 2021

wvlju2021-12-07T13:19:25+00:00

When we come from a place of It's Not Me – It's You, we project our fears and feelings onto the other. Ultimately, we are all responsible for the feelings that arise in us. Projecting our feelings back at the other is an attempt to deflect owning our feelings. And rather than get angry, defensive, or blame the other – it is more productive to respond calmly. When we come from a place of It's Not You – It's Me, we internalize how the other made us feel. We are also responsible for any feelings we internalize, bury, and hide from the other. And rather than allowing our emotions to stew and later erupt or morph into passive-aggressive attitudes or behaviors, it is more productive to speak up calmly – but confidently. Later, we can look to understand why we allow another to make us feel bad and how we allow them to treat us in the way they do. (Sign-Up to receive my Free Monthly Newsletter where I cover a variety of subjects related to our personal development). ✍?As well as my Spiritual and Personal Development Writing, I am also a Copywriter/Digital Marketing and I offer Various Writing Services. My Writing Services Page ✍? Whether we project or internalize, we take personally what the other said, did, didn’t say, didn’t do, or how they reacted or didn’t react. Don’t take things personally is one of the four agreements from ... My Recommended Book of the Month is The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz. When People Disagree or One Feels Hurt, or Gets Disappointed or Disillusioned ?It's Both of Us: because when issues arise, both are coming from a place of misalignment from love. One is unaware that they are feeling bad because of their misalignment; the other is unaware that they are behaving in hurtful ways that stem from their misalignment. And ... ?It's Neither of Us: Our true reality is that we are love. However, we are disconnected from that love. So, when issues arise, both are coming from a place of misalignment from that love – unaware that they are simply feeling bad or acting out from that place of misalignment. With this understanding that It Is Both of Us – and – It Is Neither of Us – and knowing that each is unaware that they are feeling or reacting from this place of misalignment, it is easier to understand and forgive how the other is showing up. To shift from It's Not Me–It's You – or – It's Not You–It's Me” – to – “It’s Both – It’s Neither” we must … ? Come from a place of honesty and authenticity within ourselves ? Bring the qualities of love – calmness, compassion, understanding, forgiveness, acceptance, and harmony to the other. And to get there, it helps to … ? Remember that we are all somewhat misaligned from our true reality – from the love we are at our core ? Recognize that you cannot always feel love and [...]

It’s Not Me–It’s You. It’s Not You–It’s Me. It’s Both. It’s Neither – Newsletter October 2021wvlju2021-12-07T13:19:25+00:00

?Our Evolution and Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs – Newsletter Message, July 2022

wvlju2022-08-04T23:06:11+00:00

Individuals – and our planet are on an upward evolutionary trajectory. We are reaching the pinnacle of our evolution. Up until recently, and for eons, we were in survival mode – concerned about our Physical and Safety needs: the bottom two rungs of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. (See list of levels below). This is my July 2022 Newsletter Message. You can sign-up or read past messages HERE Maslow's basic premise in his hierarchy of needs is that we must satisfy the needs on one rung before we can concern ourselves with the needs on the next rung. We Have Stepped Off the 2nd Rung of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs Starting in the last century, we have been moving past the everyday concerns of our physical and safety needs noted on the bottom two rungs. And as our natural impulse is grow, evolve, and better ourselves, we have been seeking more satisfaction and meaning in our lives. This impulse to grow is not just for ourselves, but extended out into the world. All my Writing is Based on Concepts in My Books ?I also offer a variety of writing services See My Writing Services Page (You can also find links to related posts at the end) We are starting to feel inspired to be fair, compassionate, and understanding of others, help the disenfranchised, be more considerate of our world's animals, and be gentler towards the planet. Just like us, our planet is a living, breathing organism. She is our home. Our mother. Our individual evolutions and that of the planet are related and intertwined. The Indigenous people of the world have always known this. We would be wise to listen to their take on our connection to Mother Earth and how to look after our home? Satisfying Our Needs of the Top Levels of Maslow's Hierarchy Most of us are now living to satisfy the needs of one – or more than one rung – on of the top three levels of Maslow's pyramid. ?Level 1: Our Physiological Needs ? Level 2: Our Safety Needs ?Level 3: Loving/Belonging ?Level 4: Esteem ? Level 5: Self-actualization Although we don't move fully into the next level until the current one is completely satisfied, many of the elements in the top three rungs are intertwined. This is why we can attempt to satisfy some of the needs on all three levels simultaneously. As we manage and arrange our lives and look for satisfaction and meaning, we may be attempting to satisfy our needs on, ? Level 3: Loving/Belonging. We may be on our way to mastering – or struggling to meet the needs noted on this level – to become more loving and able to create a sense of belonging with others and within society. Life will be giving us opportunities – and challenging us to help us satisfy the need for love and belonging. ?Level 4: Esteem. We may be on our way to mastering – or struggling to satisfy the needs noted [...]

?Our Evolution and Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs – Newsletter Message, July 2022wvlju2022-08-04T23:06:11+00:00

Understanding the Unconscious Influences that Run Our Lives

wvlju2022-05-27T21:24:53+00:00

Our Unconscious Influences are our attitudes, biases, habitual thought and reactive patterns, and the inner beliefs that we unknowingly erected from past experiences, what we witnessed, and/or appropriated from others that are now part of our emotional makeup. Our Unconscious Influences can have a positive effect on our lives and perceptions, or a negative one, And they act upon us without our consent. If our Unconscious Influences are negative, they may cause us to misperceive things, others, or situations and trigger us to think and act in automatic, habitual, aggressive, or protective ways. When our Unconscious Influences hold false perceptions, we develop needs to try to uphold them and strategies to defend them. We project these onto others or different situations in many ways. See below for the link to my companion post "Worksheet: Connecting the Dots ..." A Few Examples of how Our Unconscious Influences May Play Out If our early life was characterized by an impoverished background and powerlessness, we may... ?Have constructed attitudes and belief systems to avoid being poor so that we do not feel disempowered in our in life. These may manifest as a strong need to be successful in life - no matter what ... and ?Push everyone in our lives aside. ?We may align only with successful people or those we deem can help us get ahead. ?We may marry for money. Although many of us may have dreamt of marrying for money—after all having an easy lifestyle is very appealing, most of us don’t fall into that trap. ??????? If a sense of victimization typified our early life experience as a result of having maybe, an abusive parent, we may ... ?Have become controlling or overly aggressive to avoid being hurt or becoming a victim in life. ?When overly aggressive, we cause conflict in our relationships. ?If our innate character is quiet we may have internalized these earlier hurtful emotions and become passive-aggressive as a protective strategy. Further internalizing new hurts and pains, we become more disempowered in life. ??????? This post is based in concepts in my books, Your Journey to Peace ..., and Why We Are the Way We Are About my Books I also offer a variety of Writing Services ??????? Here's a Personal Example My mother was a 1950s housewife who was unhappy, distant, and morose. She alienated herself from life and didn’t find joy in anything. Because my father was an aggressive, loud bully, she fell into a poor-me, passive, victim mentality. (She actually had many medical issues, including an unrelated thyroid all her life that affected her, but I didn't know that when growing up. I was hurt by her being emotionally distant, and I hated her morose, poor-me attitudes. So, when I married at nineteen and had my first child just as I turned twenty-three, I decided there was NO WAY I was going to be a meek housewife; I associated this with being weak and a victim of one’s circumstances. While that was a [...]

Understanding the Unconscious Influences that Run Our Liveswvlju2022-05-27T21:24:53+00:00

We Are at the Pinnacle of Our Personal, Collective, and Planetary Evolution

wvlju2022-08-01T02:22:46+00:00

At this time of our evolution, we are all awakening to the truth of who we are, the truth of who our brothers and sisters on the Planet we share are, and are starting to embrace the concrete changes all this brings with it. We are all primed to become the best and most empowered expressions of ourselves, and this will bring with it powerful changes that will benefit all of us and affect the trajectory of humanity. While it may not be apparent in all areas of our world today, most of us are ready to embrace our shared connection to the Oneness we emanated from and extend its inherent qualities to others. (Below are links to 2 more articles related to Our Evolution, the Planet, the Secret of Enough, and the Indigenous People). We are starting to manifest what will bring about a safe, fair, and egalitarian world, where everyone feels empowered, has what they need to survive and thrive, and is free to live in alignment with their soul’s desires. Children Come into the World More Evolved than the Last Generation It is often the youth that urges us to make the changes needed to create a better world. The children of those born since the enlightenment era of the ’60s - especially those birthed from within the bubble of energy following the ’87 Harmonic Convergence simply expect a peaceful, just, and equitable world. They are here to help us firmly grasp the ideas of compassion, fairness, acceptance, and equality necessary to bring it about. In fact, they are demanding it!. All my articles/blog posts are based on concepts in my book: Your Journey to Peace, Bridging the Gap Between Religion, Spirituality, Psychology, and Science. I also offer a variety of Writing Services Just like with every new generation, the young people of today have shown up here on earth more enlightened than the last one. The confidence and inner-knowledge that come with this allow them to outright reject any attitude or action that hints of unfairness, greed, inequality, prejudice, or cruelty that has been so ingrained in our world. The younger generations don’t accept that people should be used or abused by others, taken advantage of or bullied by big business or the government, or be talked down to by educators or the religious hierarchy. The young people today embrace ideas that align with practices that help our Planet thrive. They are encouraging us to listen to the Indigenous people regarding our beautiful home. They do not buy into the illusions of past generations and therefore are not in denial of the consequences of their or others’ actions. The popular saying “teach your children well” should be followed by “and heed their wisdom.” The young generation of today is starting to and will continue to be the strong leaders who will fearlessly usher in this new, brighter era we now seeing glimpses of. Most of us now understand it is more beneficial to work with others in relationship [...]

We Are at the Pinnacle of Our Personal, Collective, and Planetary Evolutionwvlju2022-08-01T02:22:46+00:00

Moving From “Its Not Ok” to “I’m at Peace With This” – Newsletter September 2021

wvlju2021-11-02T18:36:27+00:00

Our ultimate purpose is to return to love.* And as we start to see others and life through the eyes of love, we can … ?Overcome – and effectively deal with our issues and challenging situations ?No longer focus the differences we hold with others, ?Make peace with situations around us we disagree with. *A Return to Love, by Marianne Williamson, was one of the first books that opened my eyes to the depths that we can perceive others – and situations through the eyes of love. We emerged from love. We were created out of love. We ARE love. And our purpose is to return to love. Our world is a classroom in that journey back to fully embracing love – in all its forms – with everyone, everything, and all situations. ??? My passion is writing in the personal development and spirituality genres. I am also a copywriter and offer various writing services to businesses and personal development and spiritual communities. My Writing Services Page Whether the Garden of Eden was real or metaphoric, it is clear that we once had a connection to unconditional love, but at some point, we lost it. Over time, Humanity's ways of dealing with others and life shifted to fear-based. We inherited fear-based concepts, ideas, perceptions, reactions, and habits from our past. These became ingrained in our DNA and developed into our current default ways of navigating the world. Many qualities encompass us feeling and showing love, and there are many qualities we express when we come from a place of fear. See my post: the Qualities of Love / the Qualities of Fear (The links to all my related blog posts are also at the end). Fear-based ways of approaching life limit our connection to – and outward expressions of unconditional love. Coming from this constricted place, we may be reactive or emotionally distant, hurting those around us. When hurt, our default may be that we become defensive and over-reactive, or we become protective of our hearts and shut down. Coming from a place of love we exude light. Coming from a place of fear we exude darkness. The Masters came to lead us out of the "darkness" or "our sleeping state, but we were too stuck in our ways to understand or embrace their messages – at least enough for them to become the norm. It is now time for Humanity to come out of the darkness into the light: To awaken to embracing the love we are at our core and extend that love to others. Moving Beyond How Humanity Has Navigated the World Influenced by what we have been taught and shown, people are only ever doing what they think they need to do to feel good or safe, or do what they think is best, right, good, or necessary. We are all on different legs of our Journey to Peace (my 1st book?) to coming out of the darkness and awakening to seeing [...]

Moving From “Its Not Ok” to “I’m at Peace With This” – Newsletter September 2021wvlju2021-11-02T18:36:27+00:00

Happy Valentines Week – February 2018 Newsletter Message

wvlju2022-02-07T22:59:09+00:00

This is a post I created from my February 2018 Newsletter message.? We all want to be happy. We all want to feel loved. And we all feel good when someone shows they care about us. Even though Valentines Day is considered to be for couples expressing and showing their love and appreciation to each other, let’s use this day that’s deemed for LOVE ... ... to Love ourselves and to spread Love - wherever we can, with whoever crosses our path, and with people we know who would benefit from a little bit of attention or an expression of love. We actually teach our children to do this. And we teach them to be excited about Valentines Day. We may buy flowers, put up decorations, or have a special desert. Excitement mounts for children as Valentines Day approaches and handmade drawings of hearts, flowers, and chocolate are brought home from school. Parents are asked to prepare something for the class Valentine party. Valentines cards are prepared for classmates. And so no child feels bad, left out, or unloved the children are to give cards to everyone – not just their friends. We should follow that lead. Although many of us look forward to and experience wonderful Valentines Days, many do not – and for many reasons. With Valentines Day being so hyped up it brings with it mixed feelings for many people. Because it’s promoted for sweethearts, people who are not in relationships, or not in loving ones, often feel bad. For people who are not coupled up, this day may bring with it a sense of loneliness – even if they may not usually feel lonely, or are alone by choice. The commercial build-up is so in-our-face that its hard not to feel any effects from it. For people in relationships who are not getting along, February 14th may bring with it sadness – for what is not. Let’s use this day to ensure we feel good, our loved ones feel loved, and extend simple expressions of love to all those whose path we cross or who we know may feel sad, lonely, or left out on this day. If Valentines Day brings with it good feelings for you - share the warm feelings with others through your demeanor or with simple gestures. If this day brings with it loneliness or sadness for you, extending a loving gesture to another will not only benefit them, it will also benefit you. Any expression of love we make to another sparks feelings of love within our being. There are many simple ways to make our self feel good and to express loving thoughtfulness to others. (There are links to some of my articles / blog posts on relationships as well as to my full blog and website at the bottom of this newsletter). If Married or In a Relationship Don’t let this day go unnoticed. If your relationship is strong be sure to recognize Valentines Day and show appreciation for [...]

Happy Valentines Week – February 2018 Newsletter Messagewvlju2022-02-07T22:59:09+00:00