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Relationships

Be Conscious and Intentional – for Successful Dating

2023-11-14T03:11:54+00:00

To Transform Your Dating Life – and  greatly improve your chance of calling-in – and choosing the life-partner you dream of, it is vital to … … bring more consciousness and intentionality to your dating – so you can co-create the beautiful life with a man you yearn for. Maybe you’ve been frustrated and fed-up and have almost given up "finding the one" because of: Dating that goes nowhere Disappointing relationship after relationship that leave you baffled and heartbroken because: The relationship loses its sizzle and falls apart He slowly distances himself from you It ends abruptly – in your mind for no apparent reason. He ends up not being who you thought he was or who he promoted himself to be By bringing a sense of consciousness and intentionality to your dating, you can avoid these hurtful, confusing, and heartbreaking situations, as … you can create what you need to call-in – and ensure you choose your IDEAL partner (not the men who may be fun, sexy, gorgeous, charismatic, etc. who ghost you, break your heart, or do not align with you and your long-terms plans And although it may seem impossible to find a man to co-create the loving, supportive, passionate, long-term relationship you dream of, You CAN Have Your Dream Relationship, whereby You feel loved, cherished, and supported He respects your time, opinions, and efforts You effectively communicate with each – in a way that gets the results YOU want – and keep him engaged with you – even though he sees and navigates life through a different lens You are listened to – and feel safe expressing your desires, expectations, and even your disappointments – knowing there will be no recriminations You enjoy many activities together – while still allowing each other any alone time need You hold the same values on important things such as, money, family, vacations, children, down-time, work habits, religion/spirituality, etc. You can openly discuss issues that crop up – without blow-ups and before they become mountains. Or something more similar to Your Dream Relationship 🔸🔸🔸🔸🔸 I am a writer and coach of personal development and relationships This article / blog post is from a section I have been recently writing: “Decisions for Successful Dating – for Women" from Part 1 “Choose Your Ideal Partner” of my upcoming book, Relationship Intelligence… If you are a woman looking for a loving, supportive, fulfilling, and passionate long-term relationship or marriage with a man ... ... you can start bringing that sense of consciousness and intentionality to your dating process by becoming clear on what exactly you are looking for – and setting up parameters that support this, such as, Your Relationship Goals – Including Being Clear on Your End-goal – and the Details of how you expect each stage to play out as you move forward Your Dating Boundaries – what is ok for you, what you feel comfortable with – and what will support your long-term relationship goals. Your Online Profile – so that you [...]

Be Conscious and Intentional – for Successful Dating2023-11-14T03:11:54+00:00

My Relationship Coaching Programs: Fall 2023 “Attract – and Choose Your IDEAL Partner – for Women”

2023-11-03T16:18:00+00:00

My Fall 2023 Coaching Program is "Attracting and Choosing Your IDEAL Partner – for Women" I am holding in-person Workshops this Fall (And will hold more early in 2024 + online ones sometime in 2024) October 21st, 2023 in Montreal (near Guy metro) 1:00-4:00 pm - Choose Your Ideal Partner - In-person Workshop for Women October 28th, in Montreal (near Guy metro)1:00-4:00 pm  Choose Your Ideal Partner - In person Workshop for Women November 2023 – Wednesday evenings in the West Island. Specifics and dates to Come November 2023 – Saturday or Sunday afternoon in West Island – including creating a vision board.  Workshops will resume again starting end of January 2024. If are interest in this theme but cannot attend,  I invite you to join my Dedicated Facebook Group  Choose Your Ideal Partner - for Women where I regularly give live presentations, post dating tips, host dating expert guest speakers, and hold Q&A’s. 🔸🔸🔸🔸🔸 Dating and "finding the one" you can spend the rest of you life with can be quite disheartening. Still, there is no better feeling than having a loving, juicy, and satisfying partnership/marriage ... .. and being able to relax into that safe and secure feeling of having that special someone to share life's joys and challenges with. Although you may have lost hope, "finding the one" is possible with, An Understanding of Dating Today Knowing Exactly What You Want in a Relationship – and Being Aligned With It Understanding How Men View Dating and Relationships – and Knowing When to Step Away By Bringing a Sense of Consciousness to Your Dating Life And Ensuring You Are Relationship Ready. And whether you are in your 20's, 30's, 40's, 60's, 50's and beyond, and whether you want – or have children or grandchildren, and you've been looking for a fulfilling, long-term relationship or marriage – but you're frustrated and fed-up of ... 🔸Dating that goes nowhere 🔸Disappointing relationship after relationship that leave you baffled and heartbroken because, they loose their sizzle and fall apart he pulls away it ends abruptly for no apparent reason he ends up not being who he promoted himself to be you are not attracting men who are worth your time and energy to even explore having a relationship with. You CAN still Attract – and Choose Your IDEAL Partner" – from the many men out there – the one you can share the rest of your life with in harmony, whereby 🔸Y0u feel loved, cherished, and supported 🔸He respects your time, opinions, and efforts 🔸You effectively communicate – in a way where you get the results YOU want, and he keeps engaged in the conversation –- instead of tuning out or getting angry) 🔸You are listened to – and feel safe expressing your desires, expectations, and even your disappointments – knowing there will be no recriminations 🔸You enjoy many activities together – while still allowing each other alone time needed 🔸 You hold the same values on important things:  money, family, vacations, children, etc. 🔸You [...]

My Relationship Coaching Programs: Fall 2023 “Attract – and Choose Your IDEAL Partner – for Women”2023-11-03T16:18:00+00:00

Relationships: As We Evolve Our Relationships Improve – Part 1/3

2023-10-10T20:51:00+00:00

(I am currently setting up a Coaching Program "Choose Your Ideal Partner", which will include a private Facebook Group, Live workshops in Montreal starting October 21, 2023, + Online Workshops in November. Contact me at: rosemary@yourjourneytopeace.com for more information. Rosemary💗) Relationships are the vehicle that best allows us to work out our issues. Our pains and fears. Our neediness. Our aggression. Our protective devices. It is where we most play out our reactionary or passive styles. This is especially true in our familial and couple relationships This article is based on my upcoming book:  Relationship Intelligence: Choose Your Ideal Partner, Improve Your Relationship, Heal Your Family Relationships  which is an extension of Ch. 5 "Relationships" in my 1st book: Your Journey to Peace ... Our Couple Relationships What most of us look for in our intimate relationships is companionship, and for the other to love, help, and support us in life.  In our younger days, we may look for the right person to build a family with.  We may also look for a partner to offer us security. And from a human perspective, this is all fine. However, from a higher, spiritual perspective, the purpose of all our relationships is for soul growth: to connect more fully to our True Self - so that we can live life coming from a place of LOVE. In fact, all our interactions with others offer us opportunities to come from that place of love: to offer the qualities of love to others.  (See my post The Qualities of Love / the Qualities of Fear. The link is also at the end. Because of the intimacy required, our relationships are the best vehicle to work through our unprocessed hurts and pains from our past. In our day-to-day life, any  Unconscious Influences we may hold, like neediness, defensiveness, or aggressive, controlling, or passive tendencies. naturally arise. It is unprocessed hurts and pains from our past that caused us to create these Unconscious Influences to protect our hearts and psyches. These, along with our individual personalities, differing ways of approaching life, and the various defensive and protective mechanisms we created to protect our hearts and psyches are what creates hurt feelings in us and conflicts with others. Our couple relationships also often hold expectations that cannot be met. And our communication skills are often weak. With presumed, unvoiced, or misunderstood expectations and poor communication we may get hurt feelings or react badly in frustration, and our unconscious, habitual responses rear their ugly head, and instead of coming from a place of love and understanding, we unknowingly invite conflict into our relationships. Our relationships are actually set up to trigger our Unconscious Influences - by others pushing our buttons. This is why our relationships are often so difficult! Unconscious Influence create havoc in our relationships. They cause us to navigate life from a place of fear, protectionism, defensiveness, and suspiciousness. We are overly sensitive and prone to blame to other for how we feel and for not understanding us. The emotional instability and feelings [...]

Relationships: As We Evolve Our Relationships Improve – Part 1/32023-10-10T20:51:00+00:00

Relationships: Partnering Up Consciously – Separating Consciously 2/3

2023-11-13T20:21:22+00:00

The more consciousness we bring to our dating, the better they turn out for us. The more consciousness we bring to our current relationships, the more easily they flourish. And the more evolved and conscious we become - aware of our wants, needs, and expectations - as well as any ways of being that may be detracting us from getting what we want from our dating or relationships, the more confident and empowered we become. Being more conscious allows us to more easily trust our hearts - that they are showing us a true picture when choosing a spouse or life-partner (or even friends or a business partner) - instead of one created from denial or neediness. Consciousness brings maturity to dating, and to relationships.  Read Part 1  Read Part 3   The more evolved and conscious we become, the less we will have to be wary of our unconscious influences (hurt feelings, neediness, aggressive or overly-passive reactions, etc.) luring us into hurtful or chaotic situations. Nor will we have to be so vigilant at continuously examining our emotions, desires, or motives. Neither will we have to be so cautious of others’ motives. When we bring consciousness and the maturity it holds to our dating and relationships, we are working at higher vibration capacities. Our radars become better attuned to the vibrations of others, and if something is off we will cue into it more easily. 🔸🔸🔸🔸🔸 This article is based on my upcoming book:  Relationship Intelligence: Choose Your Ideal Partner, Improve Your Relationship, Heal Your Family Relationships - due out Fall 2023 which is an extension of Ch. 5 "Relationships" in my 1st book: Your Journey to Peace ... To stay updated, Sign-up for my free monthly Newsletter   🔸🔸🔸🔸🔸 The more conscious we become, the greater our connection to our True Self, and the more we feel guided towards partners based on true soul parings where both can thrive ... ... where there is equality, acceptance, and forgiveness - instead confusion, hot then cold attitudes, jealousy, possessiveness, or flip flopping about where the dating or relationship will go. In conscious relationships, we encourage each other to be the best we can be. And because our strength and self-confidence comes from within, we are not invested in changing our partner or making them acquiesce to our desires. We also understand that our partner gets his or her strength and guidance from their True Self, and if that guidance is calling them to move on from the relationship we will not be so inclined towards drama, anger, revenge, or the plethora of negative responses breaking up has caused in the past. As we uncover and work through any unconscious influences (that show up as hurt feelings, and habitual, knee-jerk reactions) that affect how we think, react, and act, we will choose our partners, spouses, and life-partners more consciously. We will become stronger in ourselves and have more clarity. We will no longer be inclined to choose partners from a place [...]

Relationships: Partnering Up Consciously – Separating Consciously 2/32023-11-13T20:21:22+00:00

The Cavern Between You and Others – Is In Direct Relationship Between You and You – 3/3

2021-04-01T00:29:47+00:00

In part 1, I discussed how the hurts or conflicts that arise in our relationships are mostly due to Unconscious Influences  – to habitual thought and reactionary patterns that run our lives. In part 2, I discussed how our habitual thought and reactionary responses often do not get us the results we are looking for, and how they can create hurt feelings in us, and conflicts in our relationships. In this part 3, I explain how neediness and passive responses also affect us, and I sum this 3 part article up by explaining how we can become aware of – and override any conditioned unconscious responses that may bring us initial satisfaction, but do not ultimately give us the results we want or the sense of peace, happiness, and harmonious relationships we yearn for. You can read  Part 1 HERE   Part 2 HERE  But before I continue, I'd just like to mention that the main takeaway from this series is basically that: Improving our connection to our True Self improves – and deepens our connection to others. They are intertwined.  Passive Responses: Passive responses come from feeling disempowered. Although passive responses may appear to be neutral, as there are no blatant outward signs, they are very different because passive responses hold an emotional component – just like aggressive ones. Sometimes the hurts, feelings, disappointments, or perceived injustices are not voiced at all, while at other times they are, but are tinged with so much emotion and/or neediness that the other individual turns a blind ear. In both cases, we are not heard. Either way, the emotions are internalized affecting both the individual and the relationship. These internalizations harm us because buried emotions add another layer to the cavern between “us and us,” and our connection to our True Self is further weakened. This article is based on my books, “Your Journey to Peace … ” and “Why We Are the Way We Are” both are available in print and e-book from Amazon. Link to About Books       Link to Amazon. Passive responses harm the relationship because as our true feelings are not voiced (or heard) we have not addressed the hurt or disappointment we feel, and we remain inwardly angry towards the other for not understanding or taking into consideration our feelings, or seeing our viewpoint. And if we are do try to make ourselves heard but are ineffective, before we approach the subject again, reflecting on our approach last time and possibly adjusting it could help us getting heard this time. We can ask ourselves: Are we being needy – only thinking about our needs and perspective? Are we negative – only focusing on what is wrong or may go wrong? Are we overly emotional – crying at any perceived slight or criticism? Could we be acting passive-aggressively – sighing or putting on a sad face rather than sharing our thoughts or feelings? Whether we elect these attitudes because we don’t like to speak our mind, are unable to articulate or [...]

The Cavern Between You and Others – Is In Direct Relationship Between You and You – 3/32021-04-01T00:29:47+00:00

I Have Loved

2021-09-16T20:06:01+00:00

All Love We Feel Comes from Within Us. If We have Ever Loved – Anybody or Anything, We Can Recreate those Loving Feelings. Whatever love we have ever felt – whether for a child, lover, family member, or a pet – or anything that evoked a sense of love within us like our home, a walk, our garden, art, music, the sunset, or the exhilaration of a sport – the feeling came from within us, even though it was activated by something outside of us. If we have ever felt a deep sense of contentment – this feeling also came from within us, even though it may have been activated by outside circumstances that caused us to feel satisfied. If We Have Ever Felt Love Activated by Externals, We Can Feel Love from Within Our Self Some people actually live life feeling love all the time. However, for most of us, it is triggered by someone, something, or from a fond memory. Still, knowing/remembering that we have loved – that we have the capacity to feel love is a great comfort. Lately, it has been for me. To keep emotionally above board throughout the pandemic I upped my meditations practices. And since I use mostly guided meditations (I’m simply too hyper to meditate quietly on my own; I need assistance to get me in a quiet state ?), I have discovered some new ones. One of these has been Louise Hay’s morning meditation, which focuses mainly on appreciation. About halfway through the 25 minutes, we are asked to spend a few minutes appreciating the people, things, and experiences we now have, or have had, in our life. Here is the link to Louise's meditation. (These blog posts are all based on my books. About My Books and purchase info is found here  (a list of my books is at the end) I am also a copywriter and offer writing services. About my Writing Services see here) Over time, my appreciation turned into remembering fondly; then it turned into really feeling the love for what I have, or have had – for people, things, and experiences in my life that brings or has brought me joy. At some point, I realized that I Have Really Loved – and have gotten pleasure from so much in my life. I LOVED having children – the fun of it all; I no longer remember any of the hard parts. I have loved my homes. I loved my dance classes, and I still love to dance. I love to paint. I have loved hopping on my bicycle at the end of the day and driving along the Lakeshore. Cooking for my family and hosting family/friend gatherings has always brought me great pleasure. I have loved all my gardens – creating them and enjoying them, and I now love my balcony and window boxes. I love waking up in the morning and looking out the window – whether rainy, cloudy, or sunny. Sitting in my solarium in [...]

I Have Loved2021-09-16T20:06:01+00:00

Worksheet: Connecting the Dots to My Inner – and Outer Reactions and their Root Cause

2021-10-06T12:44:41+00:00

Negative or inappropriate reactions are the result of living on the surface level of our emotional world. We are either disconnected from our current emotions out of fear of what we may find, or we are unaware that Unconscious Influences - past emotional upsets or hurts are running our lives and causing us to feel bad or react badly. This post is a companion to my article Understanding the Unconscious Influences that Run Our Lives Having no true connection to the honesty of our feelings and the depth of our emotions, we react from unconscious emotional states that have no bearing upon others or current situations - rather than respond to what is really happening. Connecting the dots between what we are feeling and how we are reacting can help us overcome negative, inappropriate,  and ineffective attitudes and behaviors. Worksheet: Connecting the Dots to My Inner - and Outer Reactions and their Root Cause ?Always take a few moments to center yourself, ask your Higher Self, God, Spirit - of any diety you adhere to join you in understanding -  and overcoming what is causing you difficulties. Write out your thoughts - and what comes to you regarding what you are trying to understand and/or heal about yourself and your communications with others.  Here are a few examples. You may see yourself here; if not, you'll get the idea. We are looking at the real causes of our upsets or issues with others - so that we can get to the root causes and gain more understandin- enabling us to shift to healthier ways of dealing with our feelings and reactions with others. Example # 1: I Get Hurt Feelings: He/she forgot. I feel he/she doesn’t love, value, or appreciate me. I don’t feel loved, valued, or appreciated. Connecting the Dots: (You may see yourself in some - or all of these) I feel hurt when others don't show me love, appreciation, or  meet my expectations (Were your expectations voiced,  or heard by the other?) I need love, appreciation, and validation from people (I feel frustrated and unloved when I don't get validated for my efforts or the love I give) Others haven’t always loved, valued, or appreciated me. ( the 1st Ah-ha moment that connects back to past feelings of being unloved or appreciated) The big Ah-ha moment: I recognize now that I am projecting the lack of love and validation that I felt in the past into present circumstances and am putting unfair expectations on those around me. As well as my personal development, self-help, and spiritual writing, I am also a copywriter and offer many types of writing services My Writing Services.  Example # 2: I am impatient and fly off the handle easily: I'm always busy and have lots to do. I don't have time for anything that delays my plans. I am impatient with people who are calm. It's not my fault - I just get caught up in things. Connecting the Dots: (You may [...]

Worksheet: Connecting the Dots to My Inner – and Outer Reactions and their Root Cause2021-10-06T12:44:41+00:00

Choose Your Ideal Partner – Online Workshop May 17, 2023 7:30pm EST

2023-05-15T22:59:57+00:00

When dating, choosing Our IDEAL Partner - so that we can have the relationship we are looking for is often a challenge. In this world of online dating – where we usually start off knowing hardly anything about who we are meeting presents more challenges than dating did in the past. In this comprehensive workshop, You will learn the value of: Being clear in what kind of relationship you want Clarifying what that would look like – the details of how you want your relationship to unfold Setting up your criteria for how you want your future to look Vetting those you meet/date – to distinguish if the person meets your criteria Distinguishing between real chemistry – and getting caught up in a dream or the other's over-enthusiasm Setting healthy boundaries – and sticking to them Presenting yourself – in a way that honestly reflects who you are – being authentic to yourself - and your relationship goals  Creating a online profile – that honestly reflects you and draws in the kind of person you are looking for – for the type of relationship you want Ensuring you are Relationship Ready – so that when you do meet someone who meets your criteria you have the tools and understandings to do your part to make it work. Cost $30. Cdn$. For More Info and to Sign up. Read About Me     About My Books This - and all my workshops are based on my books, which are based on my 30+ years of spiritual and personal development. The knowledge, insights, and wisdom I gained and now share can help you find peace, contentment, and a sense of empowerment in yourself – and improve your relationships. This is Part 1. Part 2 will be two weeks afterwards on May 31st 7:30pm EST.  (If you cannot attend this event contact me and I will inform you when the 2nd one is set up. There will be a small recap of Part 1) I am also holding a series of Workshops entitled: Improve Your Couple Relationship – with Part 1 being Wednesday, May 24th, and Part 2 Wednesday June 7th - both at 7:30pm EST. You will find the information for this in the link above. You can also contact me at my email address below for information Rosemary rosemary@spiritedfawnpublications.com ©Rosemary McCarthy, May 15, 2023. Copyright © by Rosemary McCarthy May, 15 2023. All rights reserved. To copy, share, or distribute this post simply ensure the content is copied in its entirety, is unaltered, and is distributed freely and for no monetary or personal gain, and that this copyright notice and the link for the article and the website: www.spiritedfawnpublications.com/ are included. You can contact me at: rosemary@yourjourneytopeace.com. Blessings and thank you kindly. Rosemary🦋  

Choose Your Ideal Partner – Online Workshop May 17, 2023 7:30pm EST2023-05-15T22:59:57+00:00

The Cavern between “You and Others” Is in Direct Relationship to the Cavern between “You and You” – 1/3

2020-10-13T00:20:21+00:00

The hurts or conflicts that arise in our relationships are mostly due to Unconscious Influences that run our lives. I say mostly, because for some, conflicts with friends or in our intimate relationships are due to a mismatch, or the relationship has served its purpose and we are meant to take our cues and move on. For others, conflicts arise because one or the other is evolving more quickly, the relationship needs to shift and change to meet new circumstances, or one of the individuals is making life-altering changes that affect the relationship. When we do not heed the signals and make the necessary adjustments, compromises, do a bit of self-reflection, or seek help for a relationship that is in the throws of shifts and changes, the hurts and conflicts will continue and worsen, and both parties suffer unnecessarily. Sadly, sometimes a relationship even ends that could be saved and a family kept intact because of the inability of one or both or parties to face his or her part of its breakdown. Except for when a relationship has played out and is intended to end, we are meant to work through our hurts and conflicts with those in our lives. This is spiritual growth – and what this time in Humanity's evolution is asking of us. Because it is not by only making peace with ourselves, but with all (including people) that upsets us, or that makes us feel bad, frustrates us, or angers us, that allows  us to evolve. This article is based on my current and upcoming books, About Books HERE One of the higher purposes of relationships, whether it be with a life-partner, a sibling, a parent-child or child-parent bond, an extended family member, a friend, or even a long-term working partnership, is for the Unconscious Influences of both parties to surface – for healing. And except for the rare occasion where one party feels empowered in life and is the “light-holder” and stabilizer to the other as he or she works through a huge misalignment from their power base and feel and act from states of disempowerment, both in the relationship are usually misaligned to the same degree. These misalignments would not necessarily show up in the same way, but the degree of misalignment would be similar. Being/Feeling Empowered vs Disempowered Feeling empowered in life comes from being connected to our power base, which comes from a strong connection to our True Self – of “us-to-us.” (Our True Self is defined below, and I used the term as synonymous with Source energy, Spirit, higher Self, Creator, God, etc.). This connection gives us our confidence allowing us to reach for what we want in life, while doing so with integrity and creating harmony with others and around us. We are able to become our Best Self. (Book 2 of my new "Our Journeys to Peace' Series, Overcoming our Unconscious Influences– due out Fall 2020, helps us pave the way to becoming our Best Self. (About link [...]

The Cavern between “You and Others” Is in Direct Relationship to the Cavern between “You and You” – 1/32020-10-13T00:20:21+00:00

? Saying “I Love You” – December 2022 Newsletter Message

2023-02-03T22:20:29+00:00

This is from my December Monthly Newsletter Message. ????? February's Message will be " "What Would Love Do." Sign-up to Receive it. You Can Read Past Ones there too. The words I love you are very powerful. They touch the heart of the recipient. However, not everyone can say the words. They may feel love for the other, but cannot bring themselves to express it verbally. Its as if the words are stuck in their throat. Saying I love you is often learned from our birth family as it may have been normal to regularly say the words. And even for those who grew up in a family where saying I love you wasn’t the norm, we may still be able to verbally express love later in life – if we have a strong enough heart connection. The stronger our heart connection, the more we can feel love in our hearts and come from a place of love, and the easier it is to express love – in all its ways, including verbally. The More Love We Feel in Our Hearts, the Easier it Is For Us to Express Love – Including Words The purest form of saying I love you comes from our heart-space and being unafraid to be vulnerable. Saying I love you makes us vulnerable because we are opening our hearts – and the other may not reciprocate the love we are expressing. But the purest form of expressing love to another requires no reciprocation. However, most of us get hurt feelings or confused if another does not reciprocate our expressions of love. Sometimes they may not feel it, but most likely, the other has not returned the feelings because they cannot. Still, even if it feels awkward to say the words or it makes you feel uncomfortable or vulnerable, uttering them will benefit you greatly. Our Words Are Powerful. They Are Like Mantras Mantras are valuable because they anchor the meaning of the words into our being – into our heart-space. The more often we make an effort to connect to or express love, the more we connect to our heart-space. And the more we connect to our heart-space, the easier it is to express love – in all its forms. (See my blog post The Qualities of Love) Words are most powerful when felt deeply in our hearts. But even words whispered to ourselves or forced words voiced have benefits – because we are making an effort. The “fake it till you make it” concept has value. So, if you are uncomfortable saying I love you to others, there are many ways to get the energy of it in you – so that you can override any blocks to verbally expressing your love. This - and my February message are excerpts from my upcoming book, Relationship Intelligence ... – due out later this Winter. See my Published and Upcoming Books Practice saying the words when alone – and repeat them many times, ?Out loud to [...]

? Saying “I Love You” – December 2022 Newsletter Message2023-02-03T22:20:29+00:00

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