?Understanding Our Hearts; Understanding Others’ Hearts – Newsletter #52, May 2022.


I've created t his post from my May 2022 Newsletter message. Link to sign up or read past messages is below? ????? When we are connected to our heart we are in tune with our true feelings. In tune with our true feelings, it is easier for us to understand another’s heart and how they are feeling, being, and their motivations. How we feel affects our attitudes and behaviors and how we navigate life, how we show up in the world, and where we are coming from. Sometimes we come from a place of honesty within ourselves. Sometimes we don’t. We all have a little denial within us that we fall victim to – at least from time to time. The degree of honesty or denial within ourselves dictates whether, ?We live life coming from a place of true feelings.    Or, ?We live life coming from a place of surface feelings. ????? All my Writing is based on my published and upcoming books About My Books I also offer a variety of   Writing Services Sign-up to receive my Free Newsletter.   You can also read past ones on the link. ????? True Feelings vs Surface Feelings Feelings are complicated and many elements affect how we feel. The closer we are to our true self and the higher level of Peaceful Honesty we live from or have attained, the truer our feelings are. ?In Their Truest Form, Our Feelings Show Us an honest picture of what our heart, or soul, is whispering to us. What we feel and what we show to the world are pure and honest feelings that come from our heart. ?If Tainted, Our Feelings Show Us a false picture of what our heart is whispering to us. Our true feelings are buried and remain below the surface. How we feel and what we show to the world are surface level feelings that mask our true feelings. We are afraid to scratch below the surface.  Unconscious Influences Cause Tainted / Surface Feelings Unconscious Influences are the barriers we erect over our hearts and feelings. We erected these barriers as a result of buried, unacknowledged, and unaddressed hurts, pains, confusions, or unresolved or conflicting events from our past. When unconscious influences are at play in our life, our feelings are marred with the fears or confusion of the original event they grew out of. Unconscious influences run our lives – without our consent. Buried hurts or pains (emotional or physical) or unresolved conflicts or confusing events from our past caused us to put up protective mechanisms to protect our hearts and psyches. These protective mechanisms cause us to be reactive and they play out as negative, harmful, or bad attitudes or behaviors. We either, Turn them Inwards – and we are tentative, needy, are easily frustrated, often get hurt feelings, are passive-aggressive, disempowered, unable to make decisions, or become dysfunctional (or addictive) in some way, or Turn them Outwards – and we are critical, judgmental, controlling, defensive, blame others, or [...]