Relationships: As We Evolve Our Relationships Improve – Part 1/3


(I am currently setting up a COSU Jerseys custom football jerseys detroit lions jersey custom football jerseys College Football Jerseys asu football jersey College Football Jerseys custom made football jerseys Iowa State Football Uniforms detroit lions jersey custom football jerseys micah parsons jersey fsu football jersey asu football jersey custom football jerseys ¬†Online Workshops in November. Contact me at: for more information. Rosemaryūüíó) Relationships are the vehicle that best allows us to work out our issues. Our pains and fears.¬†Our neediness. Our aggression. Our protective devices. It is where we most play out our reactionary or passive styles. This is especially true in our familial and couple relationships This article is based on my upcoming book:¬† Relationship Intelligence: Choose Your Ideal Partner, Improve Your Relationship, Heal Your Family Relationships¬† which is an extension of Ch. 5 "Relationships" in my 1st book: Your Journey to Peace ... Our Couple Relationships What most of us look for in our intimate relationships is companionship, and for the other to love, help, and support us in life.¬† In our younger days, we may look for the right person to build a family with.¬† We may also look for a partner to offer us security. And from a human perspective, this is all fine. However, from a higher, spiritual perspective, the purpose of all our relationships is for soul growth: to connect more fully to our True Self - so that we can live life coming from a place of LOVE. In fact, all our interactions with others offer us opportunities to come from that place of love: to offer the qualities of love to others.¬† (See my post The Qualities of Love / the Qualities of Fear. The link is also at the end. Because of the intimacy required, our relationships are the best vehicle¬†to work through¬†our unprocessed¬†hurts and pains from our past. In our day-to-day life, any¬† Unconscious Influences¬†we may hold, like neediness, defensiveness, or aggressive, controlling, or passive tendencies. naturally arise. It is unprocessed hurts and pains from our past that caused us to create these Unconscious Influences to protect our hearts and psyches. These, along with our individual personalities, differing ways of approaching life, and the various defensive and protective mechanisms we created to protect our hearts and psyches are what creates hurt feelings in us and conflicts with others. Our couple relationships also often hold expectations that cannot be met. And our communication skills are often weak. With presumed, unvoiced, or misunderstood expectations and poor communication we may get hurt feelings or react badly in frustration, and our unconscious, habitual responses rear their ugly head, and instead of coming from a place of love and understanding, we unknowingly invite conflict into our relationships. Our relationships are actually set up to trigger our Unconscious Influences - by others¬†pushing our buttons.¬†This is why our relationships are often so difficult! Unconscious Influence create havoc in our relationships. They cause us to navigate life from a place of fear, protectionism, defensiveness, and suspiciousness. [...]