Our Life Matrix, Part 2/3


Our Life Matrix predisposes us to deal with life, others, issues, and situations by responding calmly, lovingly, and with attitudes that unify and uplift, or, by reacting aggressively with attitudes that divide and create conflict. We may also deal with life in overly-passive ways of reacting that usually do not create immediate outer conflicts, but as our emotions and true feelings remain buried, our inner frustration increases. And these eventually surface - and most often in very unproductive ways. Link for Part 1 here A Positive Life Matrix Living under the influence of a positive Life Matrix, we may embody optimism, confidence, and hopefulness. We may feel lucky, be fearless, as well as be accepting of others since a positive outlook and our own self-confidence cause us to be non-judgmental. We could sometimes succumb to arrogance, impatience, or single-mindedness as our personality dictates, but emotional reactions will generally be composed. Most of our dealings with others will likely be propelled by responses instead of reactions. And as our general outlook is positive, we will quickly return to positive attitudes should we fall into negative ones. A positive Life Matrix may temporarily shift to a negative one, but we are usually pulled back as our underlying inner belief system holds a positive approach to life. This article is based on my writings                                 See below for more information on these, and my upcoming  books The same holds true for a negative Life Matrix. We may have times where we approaching life or situations with positivity, but we generally default to the negative. A negative Life Matrix can be shifted more permanently to the positive, albeit with a sincere and conscious effort. A Negative Life Matrix If we are living under the influence of a negative Life Matrix, we are often needy. We may tend to be pessimistic, hesitant, doubtful, and feel disadvantaged. As these attitudes do not invite in desired results we are often frustrated. We blame others for our failures. We may act with aggression, timidity, or passive-aggressiveness, or, vacillate between these ways of dealing with our frustrations. When we do evoke positive feelings they are usually undermined, as our negative heart beliefs eventually pull us back under their influence. We may hold a volatile emotional component and will be overtly reactive—instead of being responsive to situations and taking them at face value and without making it all about us and our neediness and/or emotions. Or, we may respond with seeming passivity, but are internalizing our angers or frustrations keeping our inner world in turmoil. This becomes a vicious cycle, as inner turmoil invites in more of the same. Our emotional state is very important because it defines who we are now being, which influences what our future holds. In next week’s post I will discuss how what is held in our Life Matrix governs everything we think, say, and do, which influences what we invite into [...]