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Overcoming Anger

Show Your Vulnerability (True Feelings) Instead of Anger, Newsletter #54, Sept 2022

2023-01-12T00:59:01+00:00

This post is from my September 2022 Newsletter message.  Sign up or Read  my past messages. When we become frustrated, get hurt feelings, or another disappoints us, our default is often to react with anger or to lash out at the other in some way. And although we may feel some satisfaction at getting our frustrations out, reacting with anger, criticism, judgment, bullying – or any other aggressive way is counterproductive to giving us the ultimate results we are looking for. So is being passive-aggressive and burying our feelings. We all want to feel loved. And we all want to feel we matter to our loved ones. These are some of the many ways we feel the love and that our loved ones care about us. We all want to be understood, appreciated, listened to, and have our loved ones respect our wishes and do what they said they would do. When we feel frustrated or hurt and get angry at someone, one, some, or all of the above ways we might feel loved are not being met. However, rather than expressing how we truly feel in an attempt to get what we ultimately want, we lash out at the other. And often, we are not even in touch with our true feelings and have lost a connection to what we ultimately want. We are caught in a habitual pattern of reacting – and projecting our frustrations outward towards the other. Getting in Touch with Your True Feelings – and what You Ultimately Want For those of us not used to showing our true feelings – of being vulnerable, it is scary to step onto that ledge. Most of us who are used to hiding our true feelings, or no longer have a connection to them, have had our feelings trampled upon in the past to such a degree that we clammed up. We may have been bullied, belittled, shushed, or our feelings ignored. Maybe we were made to feel our feelings were unimportant or didn’t matter, or were told they were silly and childish when we expressed them. Physical or emotional abuse also makes our hearts close because our past experience tells us we cannot trust others and life. This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, Relationship Intelligence ... – due out later this winter. See My Published and Upcoming Books Whatever happened in our past to turn our heart cold will cause us to keep our feelings to ourselves. Past hurts may also have caused us to unconsciously bury our feelings so that we cannot tap into them enough to find the words to express them. We unconsciously created a barrier to our heart, and its feelings nature, to protect it from further pain. When protecting our hearts, our default is to project our pain outward towards the other with anger, criticism, blame, etc. – rather than reaching out from our hearts and showing our true feelings. We are afraid to be vulnerable by putting our hearts [...]

Show Your Vulnerability (True Feelings) Instead of Anger, Newsletter #54, Sept 20222023-01-12T00:59:01+00:00

Attaining Peaceful Honesty

2022-05-26T12:55:19+00:00

Most of us have at least encountered moments of peace and even pure bliss. Some of us feel peaceful most of the time. Others of us vacillate between feeling peaceful and being worried, stressed, or even fearful. While others of us can rarely access feeling peaceful – never mind feel blissful. Whenever we experience life from a peaceful place, we are living connected to our soul – to our True Self. Connected to our soul, we are in touch with our emotional world. Peaceful Honesty is a concept from my first book, Your Journey to Peace ..., Connected to our True Self and in touch with our emotional world, we are open, honest, and fearless. We are authentic. We have no need to hide our feelings, desires, dreams, hurts, pains, or fears. Nor do we feel the need to defend, react, or attack. We trust life and the insights that come to us. When disconnected from our True Self and our honest feelings and emotions we cannot tap into feelings of peacefulness, as we are living life at a surface level - and at the beck and call of our Unconscious Influences. Any negative or hurtful experiences we are still holding onto or any from our past we that we keep buried influence how we approach life. Unconscious Influences cause us to live mind-centered and from a place of fear, suspiciousness, and protectionism. Living mind and fear-centered, we are disconnected from Our true feelings – afraid to show – or even acknowledge our vulnerabilities. Being mind-centered causes us to bring echoes of the past into present circumstances. These echoes of the past created stories in our minds about how life should be and how others should be towards us. We then create expectations based on these stories that have nothing to do with what is happening in the present. We may be afraid to show our vulnerabilities, but they come out anyway in covert ways – by our reactions and behaviors. We, therefore, navigate life from a closed, limited, superficial, reactionary, defensive, and dishonest place. To access that feeling of Peaceful Honesty, we must be open and able to express our fears and vulnerabilities. Once we acknowledge, look at, and work through the real cause of our current anxieties, disappointments, or anger and we clear away the cobwebs from our past that are causing these, our fears dissipate and we open the door to living in Peaceful Honesty. Peaceful Honesty The term Peaceful Honesty came to me one morning about 10 years ago, as I awoke with an intensely peaceful feeling. It was as though every breath I took that morning went deep down into the core of my being. For years I had worked on acknowledging, accessing, and releasing much of my old, buried hurts and feelings. By the time this feeling of Peaceful Honesty came upon me that morning, I had unraveled many layers that lay between me and my True Self, and the peace that was lying beneath them started to [...]

Attaining Peaceful Honesty2022-05-26T12:55:19+00:00

What Readers Are Saying About “Your Journey to Peace”

2023-01-23T21:38:05+00:00

Below are a few reviews from readers of Your Journey to Peace, ... my 1st published book. (See below for my other published book, and my upcoming books on Personal Development and Relationships.  (I also offer a variety of Writing Services) You can also read What Spiritual Teachers Are Saying about Journey to Peace... and my writing in general. (Purchase links below) A Highly Insightful and Progressive Read! Anyone who wants to find healing in themselves and within their relationships should read this book. Rosemary offers great insight into the way our society is going and what we can do to move progressively forward as one collective humanity. (Rachel Greeve, Amazon Canada) About My other Published - and Upcoming Books (cover images at end) 💜💜💜 Highly Recommended for Anyone Striving for Personal Improvement and Higher Understanding! I found this book to be an urgent and timely read. The research is highly impressive, not to mention extremely provocative and informative. At the heart of this book is a spiritual plea for introspection, not only for each reader, but for a world in need of positive change. It is highly recommended for anyone striving for personal improvement and higher understanding. (Gary W Hesketh, Amazon, USA – author of The Soul of The Messenger). 💜💜💜 Insightful and Uplifting! I find this book offers insightful and well-thought advice/research and I recommend it to anyone on their spiritual journey to inner peace. (Anonymous, Amazon US and UK). 💜💜💜 About Your Journey to Peace  Purchase Links: Amazon    Barnes and Noble    Indigo/Chapters (Canada) About my other book, Why We Are the Way We Are,      My Upcoming Books, Relationship Intelligence - due out Winter 2022-23; Overcome Your Unconscious Influences - due out Spring 2023 💜💜💜 Rosemary💜🙏🏼🧡 ©Rosemary McCarthy, posted March 9, 2022 My Writing Services My Newsletter Sign Up       My Facebook page.    My Blog Page You can share this message as long as you include the whole post and include the copyright message and website below. 💜💜💜 Copyright ©Rosemary McCarthy, March 9, 2022.  All rights Reserved. To copy, share, or distribute this article simply ensure the content is copied in its entirety, is unaltered, and is distributed freely and for no monetary or personal gain, and that this copyright notice and the link for the article and the website www.spiritedfawnpublications.com are included. You can contact me at: rosemary@yourjourneytopeace.com. Blessings, and thank you kindly, Rosemary🌹🙏🏼 Published Upcoming in 2023

What Readers Are Saying About “Your Journey to Peace”2023-01-23T21:38:05+00:00

💜“I Choose Me” A Mantra to Help Us Overcome …. March 2022 Newsletter

2022-04-25T18:59:30+00:00

I Choose Me is the theme of my  March 2022 Newsletter Message.  Sign up to Receive or to Read Past Messages 💜💜💜💜💜 To be happy, balanced, in control of our emotions, and feel empowered in life it is vital that we consciously choose what will support us maintaining – or bringing about – our sense of peace, happiness, contentment, balance, and empowerment. Some of us almost always innately choose what will support our peace and happiness:  We are adept at choosing ourselves. Others of us fall into disempowering attitudes and behaviors amidst change, disappointment, or when life gets difficult, and we no longer choose what will support us being our best self. We allow outside forces to dictate our life. There are many ways we can Choose Me. And there is more than one level of Choosing Me.  The is a Surface Level of “Choosing Me;” There is also a More Subtle Level of “Choosing Me” The Surface Level of “Choosing Me”  Most of us have now learned that to be happy and contented we must … 🔹Do what WE want in life – not what others or society decides is right for us. 🔹Say NO – when what others or society expects from us stresses or depletes us 🔹Align ourselves with positive and supportive people and uplifting activities so that we maintain or attain a positive mind frame 🔹Remove ourselves – from others who are negative or embrace drama that mess with our energy/vibration – and from situations out of our control that bring us down. *** ***(We can still act to help others, but to stay positive and light-hearted we must do so without blame, judgment, or drama). 💜💜💜💜💜 This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, Overcome Your Unconscious Influences, such as Anger, Frustration, Hurt Feelings, and Blaming Others for Your Unhappiness (Book 2 of my ‘Our Journeys to Peace’ Series) – due out Summer 2022.  About My Books And as well as my spiritual/personal development writing, I also offer a variety of   Writing Services 💜💜💜💜💜 The More Subtle Level of “Choosing Me” We all have days when a quick-fix-pick-me-up is just what the doctor ordered. Small indulgences like: 🔹Spoiling ourselves with that special desert 🔹Cozying up all day on the couch with a book 🔹Splurging on an extravagant meal 🔹Going on a shopping spree 🔹 Binging a tv show  🔹Having an all-night gaming session 🔹Soaking leisurely in the bathtub Spoiling ourselves just a little is often all we need to improve our mood when we have had a bad day or a disappointment. It is empowering. Of course, turning to meditation, prayer – or any spiritual practice, talking to a loved one, or spending extra time in nature is the healthiest way to deal with unexpected disappointing events. Still, spoiling ourselves – just a little is usually harmless and can be a simple pick-me-up. Spoiling our self – giving our self a little love – when something unwanted has happened makes us feel good. Plus, it allows our unconscious to work in its subtle ways to heal the negative energy attached to whatever has happened. And as long as this is a one-day (or [...]

💜“I Choose Me” A Mantra to Help Us Overcome …. March 2022 Newsletter2022-04-25T18:59:30+00:00

August 2021 Newsletter: Expressing Ourselves: to Avoid Depression, Dysfunctions, and Lashing Out at Others

2021-09-21T18:47:48+00:00

Unless we express our fears, frustrations, and anger, they fester inside us and lead to depression, dysfunctional behaviors, or lashing out at others. Although focusing on the drama of anything going on is counterproductive, so is pretending all is well – when it is not. This post is created from my recent newsletter message. The link to sign-up or to read past ones is below. As well as my spiritual/personal development writing, I am also a Copywriter. See My Writing Services And for the world, again, all is NOT well. And so, we must not ignore any feelings that arise in us as the uncertainly of our immediate future still seems to be up in the air. As the return to school and cooler weather almost upon those of us in the Northern hemisphere, and as covid numbers are rising again, many of us may be feeling frustrated or angry as it seems a return to some kind of normal is not imminent. None of us have ever gone through anything like this before. This is not the time to be “a-tough-guy” about it all – and pretend all is well.  The haunting thoughts that we will be restricted again to seeing loved ones at will and that we may not be able to participate in our usual social outings and activities without restrictions is wearing on our emotions and stressing our being. We may not even consciously be aware of it, but there is a cumulative effect knawing on our emotions. To ensure we catch emotions and stresses before they become heavy and fester and create problems in our lives, we must address them. At the same time, ensuring we embrace calming/grounding activity or practices and have some positive life experiences will help alleviate any heavy emotions and stresses. Catching Heavy Emotions and Stresses Before They Fester  Acknowledging and expressing how we feel is the first step to ensure we don’t fall into sadness or depression, become dysfunctional or fall into addiction, or project our frustrations onto others – which only causes disharmony and further stress in our lives. 💥 Talking to Our Friends or Loved Ones and sharing our thoughts, fears, and frustrations about what is going on helps relieve the heaviness of it all. As we discuss these with another, our words help us pinpoint how we feel about it all, which is often harder to identify than the superficial goings-on. Once acknowledged and looked closer at, the emotions surrounding bad feelings start to subside. And often, we realize they, too, are feeling some of the same. Knowing others have some of the same fears, worries, or frustrations is comforting and helps us make peace with it all. 💥 Journaling Is an Excellent Tool to acknowledge, pinpoint, and work through our feelings and emotions. When we have nobody we trust enough – or are not comfortable discussing our innermost thoughts and feelings with others. and journaling is a beautiful way to work through our thoughts, worries, feelings, and emotions. We can address scary emotions like [...]

August 2021 Newsletter: Expressing Ourselves: to Avoid Depression, Dysfunctions, and Lashing Out at Others2021-09-21T18:47:48+00:00

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