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Be Conscious and Intentional – for Successful Dating

wvlju2023-11-14T03:11:54+00:00

To Transform Your Dating Life – and greatly improve your chance of calling-in – and choosing the life-partner you dream of, it is vital to … … bring more consciousness and intentionality to your dating – so you can co-create the beautiful life with a man you yearn for. Maybe you’ve been frustrated and fed-up and have almost given up "finding the one" because of: Dating that goes nowhere Disappointing relationship after relationship that leave you baffled and heartbroken because: The relationship loses its sizzle and falls apart He slowly distances himself from you It ends abruptly – in your mind for no apparent reason. He ends up not being who you thought he was or who he promoted himself to be By bringing a sense of consciousness and intentionality to your dating, you can avoid these hurtful, confusing, and heartbreaking situations, as … you can create what you need to call-in – and ensure you choose your IDEAL partner (not the men who may be fun, sexy, gorgeous, charismatic, etc. who ghost you, break your heart, or do not align with you and your long-terms plans And although it may seem impossible to find a man to co-create the loving, supportive, passionate, long-term relationship you dream of, You CAN Have Your Dream Relationship, whereby You feel loved, cherished, and supported He respects your time, opinions, and efforts You effectively communicate with each – in a way that gets the results YOU want – and keep him engaged with you – even though he sees and navigates life through a different lens You are listened to – and feel safe expressing your desires, expectations, and even your disappointments – knowing there will be no recriminations You enjoy many activities together – while still allowing each other any alone time need You hold the same values on important things such as, money, family, vacations, children, down-time, work habits, religion/spirituality, etc. You can openly discuss issues that crop up – without blow-ups and before they become mountains. Or something more similar to Your Dream Relationship 🔸🔸🔸🔸🔸 I am a writer and coach of personal development and relationships This article / blog post is from a section I have been recently writing: “Decisions for Successful Dating – for Women" from Part 1 “Choose Your Ideal Partner” of my upcoming book, Relationship Intelligence… If you are a woman looking for a loving, supportive, fulfilling, and passionate long-term relationship or marriage with a man ... ... you can start bringing that sense of consciousness and intentionality to your dating process by becoming clear on what exactly you are looking for – and setting up parameters that support this, such as, Your Relationship Goals – Including Being Clear on Your End-goal – and the Details of how you expect each stage to play out as you move forward Your Dating Boundaries – what is ok for you, what you feel comfortable with – and what will support your long-term relationship goals. Your Online Profile – so that you [...]

Be Conscious and Intentional – for Successful Datingwvlju2023-11-14T03:11:54+00:00

Relationships: As We Evolve Our Relationships Improve – Part 1/3

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(I am currently setting up a Coaching Program "Choose Your Ideal Partner", which will include a private Facebook Group, Live workshops in Montreal starting October 21, 2023, + Online Workshops in November. Contact me at: rosemary@yourjourneytopeace.com for more information. Rosemary💗) Relationships are the vehicle that best allows us to work out our issues. Our pains and fears. Our neediness. Our aggression. Our protective devices. It is where we most play out our reactionary or passive styles. This is especially true in our familial and couple relationships This article is based on my upcoming book: Relationship Intelligence: Choose Your Ideal Partner, Improve Your Relationship, Heal Your Family Relationships which is an extension of Ch. 5 "Relationships" in my 1st book: Your Journey to Peace ... Our Couple Relationships What most of us look for in our intimate relationships is companionship, and for the other to love, help, and support us in life. In our younger days, we may look for the right person to build a family with. We may also look for a partner to offer us security. And from a human perspective, this is all fine. However, from a higher, spiritual perspective, the purpose of all our relationships is for soul growth: to connect more fully to our True Self - so that we can live life coming from a place of LOVE. In fact, all our interactions with others offer us opportunities to come from that place of love: to offer the qualities of love to others. (See my post The Qualities of Love / the Qualities of Fear. The link is also at the end. Because of the intimacy required, our relationships are the best vehicle to work through our unprocessed hurts and pains from our past. In our day-to-day life, any Unconscious Influences we may hold, like neediness, defensiveness, or aggressive, controlling, or passive tendencies. naturally arise. It is unprocessed hurts and pains from our past that caused us to create these Unconscious Influences to protect our hearts and psyches. These, along with our individual personalities, differing ways of approaching life, and the various defensive and protective mechanisms we created to protect our hearts and psyches are what creates hurt feelings in us and conflicts with others. Our couple relationships also often hold expectations that cannot be met. And our communication skills are often weak. With presumed, unvoiced, or misunderstood expectations and poor communication we may get hurt feelings or react badly in frustration, and our unconscious, habitual responses rear their ugly head, and instead of coming from a place of love and understanding, we unknowingly invite conflict into our relationships. Our relationships are actually set up to trigger our Unconscious Influences - by others pushing our buttons. This is why our relationships are often so difficult! Unconscious Influence create havoc in our relationships. They cause us to navigate life from a place of fear, protectionism, defensiveness, and suspiciousness. We are overly sensitive and prone to blame to other for how we feel and for not understanding us. The emotional instability and feelings [...]

Relationships: As We Evolve Our Relationships Improve – Part 1/3wvlju2023-10-10T20:51:00+00:00

The Cavern Between You and Others – Is In Direct Relationship Between You and You – 3/3

wvlju2021-04-01T00:29:47+00:00

In part 1, I discussed how the hurts or conflicts that arise in our relationships are mostly due to Unconscious Influences – to habitual thought and reactionary patterns that run our lives. In part 2, I discussed how our habitual thought and reactionary responses often do not get us the results we are looking for, and how they can create hurt feelings in us, and conflicts in our relationships. In this part 3, I explain how neediness and passive responses also affect us, and I sum this 3 part article up by explaining how we can become aware of – and override any conditioned unconscious responses that may bring us initial satisfaction, but do not ultimately give us the results we want or the sense of peace, happiness, and harmonious relationships we yearn for. You can read Part 1 HERE Part 2 HERE But before I continue, I'd just like to mention that the main takeaway from this series is basically that: Improving our connection to our True Self improves – and deepens our connection to others. They are intertwined. Passive Responses: Passive responses come from feeling disempowered. Although passive responses may appear to be neutral, as there are no blatant outward signs, they are very different because passive responses hold an emotional component – just like aggressive ones. Sometimes the hurts, feelings, disappointments, or perceived injustices are not voiced at all, while at other times they are, but are tinged with so much emotion and/or neediness that the other individual turns a blind ear. In both cases, we are not heard. Either way, the emotions are internalized affecting both the individual and the relationship. These internalizations harm us because buried emotions add another layer to the cavern between “us and us,” and our connection to our True Self is further weakened. This article is based on my books, “Your Journey to Peace … ” and “Why We Are the Way We Are” both are available in print and e-book from Amazon. Link to About Books Link to Amazon. Passive responses harm the relationship because as our true feelings are not voiced (or heard) we have not addressed the hurt or disappointment we feel, and we remain inwardly angry towards the other for not understanding or taking into consideration our feelings, or seeing our viewpoint. And if we are do try to make ourselves heard but are ineffective, before we approach the subject again, reflecting on our approach last time and possibly adjusting it could help us getting heard this time. We can ask ourselves: Are we being needy – only thinking about our needs and perspective? Are we negative – only focusing on what is wrong or may go wrong? Are we overly emotional – crying at any perceived slight or criticism? Could we be acting passive-aggressively – sighing or putting on a sad face rather than sharing our thoughts or feelings? Whether we elect these attitudes because we don’t like to speak our mind, are unable to articulate or [...]

The Cavern Between You and Others – Is In Direct Relationship Between You and You – 3/3wvlju2021-04-01T00:29:47+00:00

The Qualities of Love / the Qualities of Fear

wvlju2022-02-15T05:03:25+00:00

All thoughts, attitudes, and actions stem from either love or from fear. What we are feeling and how we are being has its basis either in love, or in fear. All unease and negative outward expressions are based on some sort of fear. From the highest perspective there is only love! Everything else stems from fear. The underlying fears within us surface - one way or another - in the many negative or unproductive ways we deal with life. This concept is so hard to hear and even harder to believe. Our mind just cannot wrap itself around the idea that “I am angry because of a fear.” Of course, we think NO WAY! I am angry because he/she said/did this to me. However, if we peel back the layers of why we are angry, it boils down to some type of fear. (My Worksheet: Connecting the Dots can help us link what we are feeling or what is causing unwanted reactions - to a fear we may not be aware of. A printout copy is available from my book). This blog article is based on concepts in my books: About My Books Why We Are the Way We Are; Your Journey to Peace ... About My Books (You will also find information on this link for my 2 upcoming books: 1) Overcome Your Unconscious Influences, like Anger, Frustration, Hurt Feelings, and Blaming Others for Your Unhappiness" - due out early 2022."Relationship Intelligence ... " due out Spring 2022. To stay updated, Sign-Up for my free monthly Newsletter ??? Our positive feelings and attitudes come from the love we feel within ourselves and from our being connected to our True Self and aligned with the love it embodies. Our negative thoughts, feelings, attitudes, and actions are based on fears amassed from the impressions and interpretations we have gathered from our life experiences now buried in our Emotional Bodies and played out through our Unconscious Influences. These fears need a voice and are usually released in dysfunctional ways as we project them out into the world. Below, Illustration 4 shows some of the aspects of love, and Illustration 5 shows some aspects of fear. Love All the joy and passion that we feel and the harmony that manifests in our lives, and all the other positive attitudes (many shown in illustration 3) stem from love. We are able to bring these about because we are connected to the spark that we emanated from. There is a memory of that spark within all of us, and it is easily accessible - as long as we have not erected roadblocks to squelch the connection. In positive, loving people, that connection can show up in either overt or covert ways, depending on their personalities. Even when the connection is stifled, as was in my case, it can still be accessed with external reminders. A baby’s smile, a spectacular sunset, the abandonment that arises in us from the exhilaration of an extreme sport, or the passion that [...]

The Qualities of Love / the Qualities of Fearwvlju2022-02-15T05:03:25+00:00

Improve Your Couple Relationship – Online Workshop, May 24, 2023

wvlju2023-05-18T17:45:48+00:00

You CAN turn a Contentious Relationship into a Happy, Healthy, and Supportive one – where you both feel loved, and understood. It just takes a little understanding of our emotional worlds – and some small shifts ... ... that will get you the results YOU want when addressing or communicating with your partner. In this workshop, you will discover Helpful communications skills – that invite the other to share what's in their hearts – rather than repel them and cause them to anger or become defensive How to avoid hurt feeling – and misunderstandings How to deflate a contentious or aggressive situation or partner How to manage your expectations How to rebuild – or create a LOVING relationship where both feel loved, understand – and supported How to rebuild trust in the other – and the relationship when it has been difficult or you feel unheard. +++ much more. Part 2 will be two weeks on June 7th 7:30pm EST. Sign-up at: EVENTS - Spirit Fawn (spiritedfawnpublications.com) Don’t let another day go by living in unhappiness, frustration, and confusion as to why – and where it all went wrong. I turned my life around – from always being angry, frustrated, and blaming everyone else – including my spouse – for all my hurt feelings, disappointments, and issues, so … let me help you turn your relationship around – before it disintegrates further. My books and workshops are based on my 30+ years of spiritual and personal development. The knowledge, insights, and wisdom I gained and now share can help you improve your relationship. Hope to see you there🌞 Rosemary McCarthy rosemary@spiritedfawnpublications.com

Improve Your Couple Relationship – Online Workshop, May 24, 2023wvlju2023-05-18T17:45:48+00:00

Choose Your Ideal Partner – Online Workshop May 17, 2023 7:30pm EST

wvlju2023-05-15T22:59:57+00:00

When dating, choosing Our IDEAL Partner - so that we can have the relationship we are looking for is often a challenge. In this world of online dating – where we usually start off knowing hardly anything about who we are meeting presents more challenges than dating did in the past. In this comprehensive workshop, You will learn the value of: Being clear in what kind of relationship you want Clarifying what that would look like – the details of how you want your relationship to unfold Setting up your criteria for how you want your future to look Vetting those you meet/date – to distinguish if the person meets your criteria Distinguishing between real chemistry – and getting caught up in a dream or the other's over-enthusiasm Setting healthy boundaries – and sticking to them Presenting yourself – in a way that honestly reflects who you are – being authentic to yourself - and your relationship goals Creating a online profile – that honestly reflects you and draws in the kind of person you are looking for – for the type of relationship you want Ensuring you are Relationship Ready – so that when you do meet someone who meets your criteria you have the tools and understandings to do your part to make it work. Cost $30. Cdn$. For More Info and to Sign up. Read About Me About My Books This - and all my workshops are based on my books, which are based on my 30+ years of spiritual and personal development. The knowledge, insights, and wisdom I gained and now share can help you find peace, contentment, and a sense of empowerment in yourself – and improve your relationships. This is Part 1. Part 2 will be two weeks afterwards on May 31st 7:30pm EST. (If you cannot attend this event contact me and I will inform you when the 2nd one is set up. There will be a small recap of Part 1) I am also holding a series of Workshops entitled: Improve Your Couple Relationship – with Part 1 being Wednesday, May 24th, and Part 2 Wednesday June 7th - both at 7:30pm EST. You will find the information for this in the link above. You can also contact me at my email address below for information Rosemary rosemary@spiritedfawnpublications.com ©Rosemary McCarthy, May 15, 2023. Copyright © by Rosemary McCarthy May, 15 2023. All rights reserved. To copy, share, or distribute this post simply ensure the content is copied in its entirety, is unaltered, and is distributed freely and for no monetary or personal gain, and that this copyright notice and the link for the article and the website: www.spiritedfawnpublications.com/ are included. You can contact me at: rosemary@yourjourneytopeace.com. Blessings and thank you kindly. Rosemary🦋

Choose Your Ideal Partner – Online Workshop May 17, 2023 7:30pm ESTwvlju2023-05-15T22:59:57+00:00

Moving From “Its Not Ok” to “I’m at Peace With This” – Newsletter September 2021

wvlju2021-11-02T18:36:27+00:00

Our ultimate purpose is to return to love.* And as we start to see others and life through the eyes of love, we can … ?Overcome – and effectively deal with our issues and challenging situations ?No longer focus the differences we hold with others, ?Make peace with situations around us we disagree with. *A Return to Love, by Marianne Williamson, was one of the first books that opened my eyes to the depths that we can perceive others – and situations through the eyes of love. We emerged from love. We were created out of love. We ARE love. And our purpose is to return to love. Our world is a classroom in that journey back to fully embracing love – in all its forms – with everyone, everything, and all situations. ??? My passion is writing in the personal development and spirituality genres. I am also a copywriter and offer various writing services to businesses and personal development and spiritual communities. My Writing Services Page Whether the Garden of Eden was real or metaphoric, it is clear that we once had a connection to unconditional love, but at some point, we lost it. Over time, Humanity's ways of dealing with others and life shifted to fear-based. We inherited fear-based concepts, ideas, perceptions, reactions, and habits from our past. These became ingrained in our DNA and developed into our current default ways of navigating the world. Many qualities encompass us feeling and showing love, and there are many qualities we express when we come from a place of fear. See my post: the Qualities of Love / the Qualities of Fear (The links to all my related blog posts are also at the end). Fear-based ways of approaching life limit our connection to – and outward expressions of unconditional love. Coming from this constricted place, we may be reactive or emotionally distant, hurting those around us. When hurt, our default may be that we become defensive and over-reactive, or we become protective of our hearts and shut down. Coming from a place of love we exude light. Coming from a place of fear we exude darkness. The Masters came to lead us out of the "darkness" or "our sleeping state, but we were too stuck in our ways to understand or embrace their messages – at least enough for them to become the norm. It is now time for Humanity to come out of the darkness into the light: To awaken to embracing the love we are at our core and extend that love to others. Moving Beyond How Humanity Has Navigated the World Influenced by what we have been taught and shown, people are only ever doing what they think they need to do to feel good or safe, or do what they think is best, right, good, or necessary. We are all on different legs of our Journey to Peace (my 1st book?) to coming out of the darkness and awakening to seeing [...]

Moving From “Its Not Ok” to “I’m at Peace With This” – Newsletter September 2021wvlju2021-11-02T18:36:27+00:00

Personal Development Books – Black Friday Sales

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BLACK FRIDAY BOOK SALE. 40% Savings. WAS $8.99(US) NOW $5.40(US) – for a limited time. E-book $2.99(US) Learn how to feel more peaceful and create more harmony in your life. (Reader reviews – and link to buy from Amazon are below) As you begin to understand your – and others – actions and reactions, angers, frustrations, and why you often feel bad and/or are disappointed by what another does – or doesn’t do, you pave the way to better create more harmony in your life. Reader Reviews: Why We Are the Way We Are: Buy at Amazon: My Other Book, Your Journey to Peace, Bridging the Gap Between Religion, Spirituality, Psychology, and Science: (About my upcoming books on relationships below) Buy at Amazon: I am doing am Online Workshop Nov 30th at 7:30pm (EST on these themes. If you are interested, email me and I will send you the workshop link once the details are completed. Rosemary? rosemarys.writingservices@gmail.com My upcoming books, Overcome Your Unconscious Influences, - due out Winter 2022-23, Relationship Intelligence – due out Spring 2023. I also offer a variety of Writing Services. Sending you peace and love on the Thanksgiving weekend?? November 25th, 2022. Rosemary ?

Personal Development Books – Black Friday Saleswvlju2022-11-26T00:01:09+00:00

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