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Self-forgiveness

What Would Love Do? February 2023, Newsletter #56

2024-03-11T01:17:02+00:00

What Would Love Do? About Ourselves – and Regarding Others This text is from my February 2023 Newsletter Message. Sign Up to Receive Future Ones or Read Past Ones.  ?How we perceive and internalize what happens to us –detroit lions jersey OSU Jerseys Florida state seminars jerseys custom made football jerseys OSU Jerseys fsu football jersey fsu football jersey Ohio State Team Jersey detroit lions jersey asu jersey micah parsons jersey Iowa State Football Uniforms custom football jerseys brock bowers jersey 49ers jersey dictates how we will feel afterwards ?How we respond to disappointments, misunderstandings, and others’ unwanted or aggressive attitudes or behaviors – dictates the atmosphere afterwards ?How we deal with unexpected or unwanted situations – dictates how satisfactorily they will be resolved And it Is How Much Love We Have for Ourselves that dictates how we perceive and internalize, how we respond, how we deal with situations – and how much we can express love to others – and out into the world. Self-Love Self-love means that we are accepting, understanding, compassionate, and forgiving to ourselves – we are basically kind to ourselves. When we come from a place of love, we think, speak, act, and react from a place of love – and empowerment. Focusing on the positive aspects of ourselves and others is uplifting and empowering. Focusing on the negative aspects of ourselves and others is deflating and disempowering.  And it is from this place of empowerment that we can be accepting, understanding, compassionate, and forgiving to others – we can basically be kind to those around us. Ensure Your Thoughts, Words, and Reactions Align with Self-Love Self-love requires being conscious and aware of what you are letting into your mind and life – and what you are putting out into the world. When we think, speak, react, and act unconsciously, we are at the beck call of Unconscious Influences. Based on unresolved past hurts and pains that we project into the present, these influences cause us to feel, react, and behave in habitual and protective ways that have no bearing on what is currently happening. This unconscious way of dealing with life and others causes unwarranted anger, hurt feelings, misunderstandings, and conflicts. To get to a place of loving yourself, your thoughts, words, reactions, and behaviors must align with, ?The way you want to feel, ? How you want life to show up, and ?The kind of relationships you want to have. If you want to feel love in your life and have peace around you, you must come from a place of love – and extend Love’s Qualities to those around you. If your thoughts, words, reactions, and behaviors do not align with what you want, you have to exchange them with loving, compassionate, and forgiving ones – rather than berating yourself, complaining about a situation, or criticizing or blaming others. This is vital because how we think about ourselves and how we deal with others and situations dictates what shows up in our [...]

What Would Love Do? February 2023, Newsletter #562024-03-11T01:17:02+00:00

Self-Forgiveness Returns Us to Our Innocence – Part 3/3

2020-10-07T11:23:12+00:00

Self-understanding is the path to self-forgiveness. And it is sacred work. Working hand in hand, they strengthen our connection to our True Self, which paves the way to peace, happiness, and feeling empowered, and becoming our Best Self. We forgive our self of all ways we hurt our self, or others, because we are all innocent and loving beings at our core – we have just forgotten this. We only ever feel, react, or behave badly or in unhelpful ways from our unmet wounds, or from current stressors we cannot deal with. We inherited this way of dealing with life from Humanity's past. We are all influenced by left-over attitudes and behaviors from past generations that were based in fear, blame, projection, and protectionism, causing us to feel, react, and behave in hurtful, unhelpful, and unloving ways. Humanity is at the pinnacle of its evolution, and we are primed to address, and overcome, our injured selves.  In Parts 1 and 2 I discuss in depth why we act in ways that hurt our self – and others, and the importance of looking at what is driving us to act or react in unproductive or hurtful way.  I explained that it is Unconscious Influences we inadvertently anchored into our being that act upon us without our consent, and that must be addressed. In this Part 3, I will focus on Self-understanding and Self-reflection, which together allow for Self-forgiveness. This lays the ground work to connect the dots to the associated Unconscious Influences that are causing us to feel, react, and act in unhelpful and harmful ways – so that we can be free of their influence. Link for Part 1  HERE  for Part 2  HERE Unconscious Influences will have been affecting us – one way or another – whether we are aware of it or not: they act upon us without our conscious consent. And with all the stress and uncertainly we are living with these days, our Unconscious Influences may surface more than usual. Whenever they do, we either hurt our self, others, or both – as negative reactions and behaviors affect all involved. We hurt our self when we turn our fears, hurts, insecurities, and disappointments back onto our self. We may be overly-sensitive when disappointed by others and get hurt feelings. We may be tentative and afraid to try things. We may suffer from angst, apathy, insecurity, guilt, shame, or be overly-passive and not stand up for our self. We may become dysfunctional, or even an addict. As these all cause further internal angst and pain, we continue to think, act, and react in disempowering ways, and the cycle continues. We hurt others when we project our Unconscious Influences onto those around us. We may lash out in anger, blame them for our unhappiness, or are judgmental, critical, demanding, bullying, controlling, uncooperative, abusive – or any other harmful or disempowering way that may hurt or stress them. This causes conflict in our life and disharmony our relationships. It is the denial [...]

Self-Forgiveness Returns Us to Our Innocence – Part 3/32020-10-07T11:23:12+00:00

Self-forgiveness Vital in Stressful Times – Part 1/3

2020-09-04T22:17:39+00:00

Even the kindest, evolved, and most conscious people among us waver from healthy, kind, compassionate, and forgiving attitudes and behaviors from time to time. And even though we are all more stressed than usual these days with all that is going on and the restrictions we need follow to keep ourselves and others safe, I am thrilled to see mainly kindness and compassion.  Most people seem to be doing fine! Still, what we project on the outside and when we are out and about is not always reflective with what goes on in our homes, or with those we are close to. Stressors do have a way of seeping into our attitudes and behaviors. Whatever the reason, whenever we fall into any kind of negative attitudes or behavior it is always important to forgive our self – but vital to do so these days.  (I wrote this article a few years ago entitled "Self-forgiveness and Becoming Our Best Self." It felt appropriate to re-post it now – with a few tweaks to reflect the times we are living. And so, as well as general themes on self-forgiveness, you will find references to our current situation). Rosemary? No matter what bad or unkind things we have thought, believed, said, supported, done, or not done, time we have wasted, money we have squandered, or any addictions we have succumbed to, we can turn our life around and rise above what has held us in negative attitudes or patterns hurting our self, or others. Our purpose here is to connect more fully to our True Self – TO LOVE, which allows us to feel good, be joyful, stay balanced, become our Best Self, and to bring love and light to the world. We ALL have the capacity for all this – no matter what is going on. However, most of us have simply not been taught this. And the world has forgotten the importance of feeling good and joyful. Forgiving our self is vital to us staying balanced,  feeling good,  able to access joy, turning our life around, and becoming our Best Self However, to allow self-forgiveness to anchor into our being we must embrace the concept of unconditional love for our self!  We ARE LOVE. we emerged from LOVE – from God (Source, Spirit, Holy Spirit – or whatever we call the universal creative force), and it reflects back to us only unconditional love. And unconditional love holds the premise of complete forgiveness.  When we (or anyone) cannot feel love, or express it out into the world, it is only because we are not connected to our origins. We are disconnected from our True Self – from the love we are at our core. (I will be posting a Worksheet on "Forgiving Our Self" shortly. See links below to follow me. Rosemary  Disconnected from this love, we default to egoic ways of thinking, being, managing our life, and navigating the world. These ways of being have all been inherited from Humanity's past, and have [...]

Self-forgiveness Vital in Stressful Times – Part 1/32020-09-04T22:17:39+00:00

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